Mum

[Hotpinkangel19]

I'm heartbroken. Mum's dying. I'm pregnant and she doesn't know. She won't get to meet him/her. She has weeks left and I don't know how to cope. She just sleeps all of the time. We're just watching her fade away. How do you cope????

I'm not sure you do "cope" OP, you just keep breathing.

Lots of sympathy for you. The same thing happened with my mum. The only advice I have is to focus on the good memories, be as kind to yourself as possible, and try to remember to look after yourself as well as her. My baby has just been born, and I am trying to live life as my mum would have wanted, rather than dwell on what should have been. It's very hard though.

What would help me is to look at photos you cherish, think of the stories about your mum you'll tell your little one in a few years time, maybe just stroking her hand, humming her favourite song hoping that somehow it will ease her passing, pray if you are religious or maybe write a poem if not, that kind of thing

Feeling for you op x

Thank you xx

She hasn't eaten food for weeks, she seems to be living on tiny sips of lucozade and midazolam.

Really sorry to hear that Hotpink. Big hug and a handhold being sent your way. Are you able to play your mum's favourite music / TV shows, etc so that you have something familiar or comforting to listen to? Can you get regular breaks? There's nothing wrong with taking time for yourself if it helps you.

Okay so it's hours/days now I'm really scared.

I'm so sorry. Is there some music that she loved you could play to her or a favourite book you could read aloud to her?

Yes I could. Thank you x

Just be there.... Hold her hand.. tell her how much you love her! When you and she is ready .. remind her that you'd rather have a pain free existence and she can go!!!!
Please do PM me.... I've been through this very recently and understand.
Please ensure you allow friends &family to say goodbye ... But take those last hours just for the closest !!!
Big big love to you all!!!! Mum will know about the baby .... I've got a disabled boy and know mum watches over him !!

Much love to you hotpink is mum conscious at all? Can you tell her about baby?
Be kind to yourself

Just tell her anything you want her to know.

How are things today Hotpink?

Thinking of you at this difficult time. Look after yourself

Mum passed away peacefully this morning, thank you for your kind comments x

Really sorry to hear that

Sorry Hotpink - I hope you can take some comfort from the fact that she's no longer suffering.

Do take care of yourself and your baby.

I lost my Mum at the beginning of this year, so I have some understanding of how heartbroken you are.

Oh so v sorry to hear this hotpink. Thinking of you x

So sorry for your loss. Your DM must have been so proud to have such a caring daughter

So sorry for your loss, I hope you're able to treasure the time you've shared and be proud that you were with her when she needed you most. In time the painful memories of seeing her go this last few weeks will fade, and the memories of the woman you love will shine bright again. You will remember her for all she wanted to be to you, you never get over it but you do get used to it. Take care, rest now whist you can, in a couple of days there will be a lot to do. Remember the mantras she taught you and remember her family and friends have also lost a loved one. Let them grieve with you and look after you, they will feel like they owe it to her to do that for you.

Thinking of you
Take care x

Thinking of you and your family Hotpinkangel19
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Love and strength to you and your family Hotpink.