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MC no.2

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Hayls · 12/03/2007 19:04

Am pretty gutted... had early mc in Oct last year and decided to try again in Feb, amazingly got pg straight away (cue lots of 'faint line, am I pg posts') but have lost this one too. Was almost exactly the same stage (around 6 weeks) and I don't know what's going on, if anything.
HAd a scan last week at the same time as blood tests, scan showed early pg but hcg levels were too low so is definite mc. Only concern I have is that if they saw it on the scan I'm pretty sure it's still there; last MC everything left my body within 24 hours then I had bleeding like a normal period but this time it's only been a few small clots and light- medium bleeding since Wednesday. The bleeding is slowing down now but I don't know if I should still expect to 'lose it'. Sorry if that's TMI but I don't know what's going on!

Top of my things to think about is if/when to try again. Part of me wants to just try straight away and the other part is being very cautious and wary...

There are probably no responses to what i've written but if anybody has any words of wisdom I'd be so grateful.

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MarsLady · 12/03/2007 19:05

I have no response but just wanted to send you love.

cazzybabs · 12/03/2007 19:07

So words of wisdom...but big hugs. It is so horrible and everywhere you turn there are pregnant people and babies. I am in a similar boat - I had 1st mc in march (a year ago) and then 2nd mc at Christmas. Was so gutted....

anyway...am back on the old TTC bandwagon having cut down on caffine, am taking folic acid and trying not to drink to much (although went out and got drunk this w/e).

Hayls · 12/03/2007 19:11

That's the thing, pg in Oct was a big surprise and I was shocked initially as hadn't really been looking after myself so I took folic acid and vitamins for 3 months before ttc to give me a head start and it still happened .

I only knew for a few days but it still feels awful.

DD is keeping me happy though [happy]

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StrangeTown · 12/03/2007 20:57

Hayls I'm so sorry you have been through this twice.

About the m/c this time - it is very difficult to know if you have passed everything. I had a few clots and then bleeding second time around, as you have described. May be worth making an appointment with your GP to get a scan or additional blood tests however, esp as you want to try again.

I has 2nd m/c last month. Difficulty is that you have no idea when you will ov so makes it quite hard to know what to do. Not really actively TTC, but not taking any precautions either.

Do whatever you need to get through these next weeks. Glad your DH is looking after you.

Lio · 12/03/2007 20:59

Sorry nothing useful to say, but I am so so sorry, it's a horrible thing to go through

lissielou · 12/03/2007 21:01

unfortunately ime every mc is different. take another test once the bleeding stops and if i a + get to the docs asap

littlelapin · 12/03/2007 21:01

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Taichimum · 13/03/2007 08:50

I feel like hearing it please. Just found out I am having second mc at 10 weeks after having one at 11 weeks in Nov. I even had a scan at 7 weeks this time and there was a heartbeat and all was fine. Then the baby died two days later they told me at the scan yesturday. I feel cursed and miserable.
Yayls I am sorry for your loss. There seem to be quite a lot of mn etters out there that have had two in a row.

littlelapin · 13/03/2007 09:14

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Hayls · 13/03/2007 10:41

Thanks for kind words. I rang the EPU this morning and they said that the HCG levels were so low that they would expect any bleeding/ clots to be 'minimal' so they're confident it's OK. Bleeding has stopped now so we shall see what happens. I'm not at home atm, was visiting family when it happened and as dh is working away all week I decided to stay here- last mc happened at home and they didn't do anything, just left me to see what happened but I knew it was complete. This time I've had 2 scans, blood tests and lots of support from hospital so I decided it would be wise to stay on and get continued care here. I'm going to visit GP on my return to get it noted on my records that I'm concerned, even if they don't/ can't do anything about it.

Littlelapin, I too have heard lots of positive stories and it does give me a glimmer of hope. I know I can have a successful pg because I have 3 yo dd and we weren't even sure I could conceive due to endometriosis (now resolved) so the fact I have managed it 3 times and have a healthy dd is encouraging imo.

I'm so sorry for all of you that are going through the same thing

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