My mum had a major brain haemorrhage just before Christmas and although she's technically out of the coma now there's nothing working mentally or physically. She can open her eyes and move one arm, that's it. And she's not there. She's gone although her body is still here. She has no brain function. We've been talking to the consultant about withdrawing the treatment that's keeping her alive but I don't know when this will happen. It's very hard as to me she's already gone, but people still keep saying stupid stuff about her getting better and giving it time, but she's not going to get better. Her brain is too badly damaged. I feel like I am bereaved and that the bit of her that was my mum has died, but we're in this horrible limbo because her body is being kept alive and people just don't understand.
It's very difficult too as I have very mixed feelings about this. She was really not a nice woman, she was abusive I guess and she made our lives very hard. In a lot of ways, life is better and easier now.
I don't know what to say, really, or if it's okay to post this here.