How to cope with the time left?

[EvieSparkles0x]

Sorry if this sounds blunt or selfish, but I haven't really processed this yet.

Just wondering if anyone can offer advice or support about how to cope with the waiting and wondering if someone close to them is very likely to die soon?

My dad has COPD and has lived with the condition for some time. Last night he was admitted to hospital and he has told us that unless they can clear his lungs, which is unlikely at his stage/age, then all they can do is make him comfortable :(

While my dad is what would be considered a "reasonable" age to move on, I do not feel ready to lose him (I'm 23). Not saying that makes it easier or harder but I've never experienced the death of someone close to me before, so I feel so lost and unable to, well feel anything. I can cry if I talk about it but I feel numb inside. Sorry, I'm rambling.

My question I guess is, does anyone have any advice about how to deal with the coming days, both practically ad emotionally? I have to tell work on Monday that I may have to rush off at a moment's notice if I get the phone call. I have never been to a funeral before and I am terrified. I have a young DD to look after and we are supposed to be TTC. I am intensley worried about how my mum will cope. I guess I'm also really posting because I'm not ready to tell/talk to anyone about this and I thought I might find some comfort in shared support. Thank you for reading

Thank you all so much! I am going to reply in more detail as you've all been so kind and want to reciprocate support to those of you who have gone through/ are going through this.

Work was quite unsympathetic when I told my manager so I really appreciate have people who have been through similar guiding me. My DP is being so lovely but he has no close family (was adopted by an abusive foster family) so I also feel a bit guilty off loading too much on him, like, at least I have family to care for!

As of yesterday morning, the consultant has told us that dad is getting better again! And so should be able to come home at some point. He will need to be even more closely monitored and medicated than before, but that is something we can cope with. I really hope my mum is okay, she is 18 years younger than my dad so they are in different stages of life. Hope you are all okay today xx

Great news!

That's such good news evie.

brilliant news, evie!

Hi Evie, just stopping by with a hand hold. I'm in exactly the same position right now with my DM. All we can do is treasure each little moment and find some laughter. Life can be very cruel at times. Take care of yourself, be strong but don't be afraid to shed many tears

Evie that's fabulous news.

I was actually coming on to suggest home carers.

I work in home care but Palliative mostly (hence coming on the thread) but you can get help with pretty much anything (except housework it's not funded) if you think the extra help with monitoring and medication would help your mam out somewhat it might be worth enquiring about.

Again so pleased he's on the mend