My DM died suddenly 14 years ago, when I was still at uni and very vulnerable. People who were family friends who I'd known my whole life stopped seeing me or even responding to me - and still now if I try to visit or even just text I'm told they don't want to see me. I get that it might be painful for them, but it sort of feels like they don't consider how I feel being that she was my DM and I might've needed them to at least be around. I haven't been constantly trying to contact them or anything, but they'll see my DSD who was married to her and they won't see me. I've just been erased from their lives.