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My Nanna died this morning

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Twerking9to5 · 11/11/2016 14:49

I don't really know why I'm posting but just feeling so sad.

Nanna had stage 4 lung cancer, we found out 4 weeks ago. She's had dementia for the past 10 years which has been the worst part I think. I feel like she was robbed of those years.

I saw her last night-she had been in a care home and I drove over to see her and my mum, who had been with her all day. It was quite distressing.

She could no longer talk and her eyes looked dead but she was really agitated. She kept trying to sit up, pull at her clothes, reaching out. We sang to her, kissed and cuddled her and told her we loved her. I am so so glad we did that, she knew we were there. At one point she pulled herself up, leaned into me and gave me a whisper of a kiss. That, despite everything, was really quite special.

Sending love out to all others going through the pain of losing someone. It is shit xxx

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littlemissneela · 11/11/2016 14:52

Im so sorry to hear of your sad news. It was lovely you were able to be there with her at the end, and I am sure she took comfort in that.
RIP 9-5s nanna Flowers

mintthins · 11/11/2016 14:52

I am so sorry for your loss. You clearly loved her very much. I don't know anything about dementia, but would think that even in an agitated state she would have had some sense of how loved she was. Flowers

Twerking9to5 · 11/11/2016 15:02

Thank you very much both. I think she did know we were with her and loved her-in fact I'm sure of it x

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beelover · 13/11/2016 10:42

So sorry for your loss. I am sure your Nanna felt the love from you and your Mum and knew how much you cared for her xx Flowers

Twerking9to5 · 14/11/2016 19:24

Thank you beelover, that's kind of you x

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