M/C???? ... feeling numb

[BlueSez]

Seven weeks pg, started bleeding last wednesday. Saw gyn thursday said all was still ok. Blood tests and endless waiting over weekend. Bleeding got heavier, not much pain, no real clots. Emotional rollercoaster of Yay pg, oh no blood! everthing ok ... oh no more blood! ... waiting, crying and trying not to think anything.

Really sorry to hear this Bluesez...Its just shite. I went through v. similar experience in Nov with first scan seeming to be ok then not and I really feel for you.

Keep posting, I got lots of support from MN at the time and it really helped as people here know exactly what you are going through.

Hopefully no clots is a good sign, i'll keep my fingers crossed for you
x

BlueSez, this is so hard but don't give up hope yet. I had 4 m/cs and they all involved substantial pain & clots so it's a good sign you don't have this. I also had 3 successful pgs and with the last 2 I bled on & off for 8 weeks and sometimes it was pretty heavy so I'd be thinking "here we go again" but I was lucky.
Good luck and hope you get to hear some news soon.

Both times I m/c'd it involved clots. Pain and contractions the first time, but not the second. I am no expert, but if you haven't passed any clots, you're probably in with a good chance of it all being okay. Fingers crossed for you...

PS - I'd suggest calling your EPU to get a scan anyway to see what's going on...

Thnks for the support. Had a scan today, baby has died. Will have d&c tomorrow. Heartbroken now that I know its definate, but also somewhat relieved to know the waiting is over. DH can't understand why I am so upset. But men dont understand these things. My DS (18m) not letting me out of his site ... he can sense something is up. Havent cried in front of him, but he knows. Its just so sad.

so sorry

Men are not so good with those kind of things, maybe if baby had been in his belly he would understand a bit more. They dont have that maternal feeling.

Take care and hope tomorrow is ok.

Blue I am so sorry to hear of your loss,

I had a missed m/c at 15 weeks two years ago my dh is brilliant but he just couldnt understand how devestated I was, to me it was a baby from the minute I found I was pregnant to him it almost wasnt real.

I found the miscarriage association really helpful and supportive. Im not sure what else to say to you

I am so, so sorry. Good luck with the d&c. Maybe it just needs a bit of time to sink in with your dh. Mine doesn't like talking about either of my m/c...

So sorry to hear this BlueSez, bless your DS for being so intuitive...make sure you get lots of lovvely cuddles to cheer you up. I went really clingy to my DS after my m/c!

Even if your DH isnt the most understanding, he can still look after you with a bit of extra TLC. I think it is harder for men to understand these things too.

So sorry to hear this BlueSez Maybe your DH is hurting more than he lets on. I know mine is like that. Children can be so intuitive, my DS looked after me when I had my m/cs even when he wasn't even two!

Bluesez,

So sorry to hear your sad news.
I miscarried my first 2 years ago today at almost 8 weeks. Its a horrible feeling, you feel empty and sad, and lifeless. But i remember thinking i shouldn't feel this way. totally forgetting that my body was going through major shock both physcially and mentally. I wanted to keep busy ad get back to work the first day or too, then all the life drained from me and i just wanted to curl up in a ball and cry.
you will go through so many emotions, and i can honestly say that without the support of mumsnet there is no way my mind would be the same today. I made some truly wonderful friends who are still friends now.

My DH was wonderful, although he didn't know what to say and eventually got tired of all my sobbing. But you're right men don't understand, they can't possibly. The loss they feel i different to ours, but its still loss all the same. My DH wanted to be my rock, to show no emotion and be strong as much as he could, Men like you to know that they're there to depend on if you need them. But don't be fooled, he's hurting inside too.
Lots of crying and cuddles always does the trick. I think you're little one will be a welcome distraction too. Its much easier to put a brave face on for your child. I was a childminder and only broke down in front of them once. they keep you busy.

Please share your feelings with us on here if you need to, it will help to write it down, and be even better when you hear someone else say, i've been there, and it will get better.

I'm sending you the biggest hugs (((((((((hug)))))))))))

Thanks so much to everyone that responded. It has really helped to know that Im not alone, and that my feelings have been validated by all of you. Its such a shock and the emotions make no sense at all. I am thrilled that I found this site, I think its fantastic. My DS has been a real help, keeping me laughing at his antics and I am sure that you are right regarding my DH. He is the type to likes to solve problems, not quite sure what to do when he cant come up with a plan. Anyway ... thanks again everyone.