I've finally looked at the pictures that the midwves took of little Bo.

[bauble99]

It has taken me nearly two years. I know that some people who lose a baby during or soon after birth find comfort in looking at photos and hair etc. But for me it's been something that I've avoided.

On New Year's Day I opened the envelpope and little folder that the midwives had put his photos, hair and footprints into. And, although I cried, it was good...no, that's not the right word, but you know what I mean... to see him again. There's a picture of him in the plastic NHS cot with Elijah, his twin - and I'm glad that I've got that photo. The midwives said at the time that it sometimes helps to have a picture (if posible) of twins together as it's the only picture, apart from US scan pictures,that parents have.

Thanks to all of you who've been here for me after and since Bo's death.

XX

bubble,
sending love
HC xx

oh bauble thats wonderful hugs, well done

so glad you've got that envelope and folder bubble
you are such a wonderful mummy xxx

Thinking of you, bubble.

Oh bubble, good. I remember a while ago you wanted to look but didn't want to IYSWIM. I'm glad that now you have it has brought you comfort. xxx

How lovely to have a photo of the twins together.
lots of love x

Oh bubble...I don't do hugs very often but I'm sending you one with all my love...

Oh Bubble, that must have been so so hard for you.

Much love. xxx

So sorry for your dreadful loss.
i am glad you have felt you can do this. I still find it terrifying to think about looking at the pictures of my daughter madeleine who was stillborn.
Has it made you feel any better?

oh bubble. I'm glad you had the photos to look at.

Bubble, I am so glad you found some comfort and on such a special day too. XX

Scan the picture and put a copy of the disc in another home in case you ever need it.

I'm glad you found some comfort from doing that bubble. Take care.

Oh, Bubble xx

I can imagine it must have taken some courage for you to finally take a look at the photos and that it's probably one of those situations that the longer you leave it, the harder it could be. So glad that you found some comfort. lmbx

Oh, my love and for you.

I remember you talking about looking at them ages ago - must be a year or more now.

I'm glad you have found them a comfort, and I'm glad you have them to look at. Do as Peachy says and get a back-up made of them, if you feel able.

Much love - and really hope to see you soon, my darling Bubble x x x x x

I remember reading your threads not long after I joined MN. I didn't have words then. I'm so pleased you have that photo and I bet Elijah will be too, in time. I have twins and I can imagine how that photo looks, just beautiful I bet. Love to you x.

Oh Bubble, that must have taken a lot of courage for you & I am glad you found some comfort from them.
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I have goosebumps reading this bubble - can only imagine how hard that must've been.
Glad you have it positive

YOu are so brave, bauble 99, this thread has touched me so much. I welled up when I read it.

Having lost a twin at birth too, can I ask what prompted you what was the reaon for feeling ow was the right time to look at the footprints etc?

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thoughts with you xxx

I'm glad you were able to look at them Bubble. I often think of you and I feel honoured to have met you albeit briefly. Wishing you lots of love, Cadders xx

bubbly my darling. Well done for being so brave! Love you and will always think of you and remember Bo. I remember the excitement we shared at his impending arrival and the grief we shared afterwards.

I think that Footle will be glad to see the picture of his brother when he's older. I pray that you continue to grow strong and that Footle, TeeBeeCee and the boys (and of course DH) bring you nothing but joy.

Thoughts with you Bubble. I am glad you got some comfort from this.