Anyone have a Plan B?!

[ditzyangeluk]

I always had the plan;
school, bit of college, work, get married, have kids, live happily ever after! Ahhh.
Well, 40 years old, three marriages down the line & no kids. Although very happy with my DH (& lucky) I never had a Plan B if the childen didn't come along.
I just feel I plod on & my life is pointless without childen. Anyone else ever had this problem?

Thankfully ditzy I no longer have the problem (not what you want to hear - sorry) but I remember the feeling oh so well. I hope by bumping this for you someone else will come along who's much more helpful.

I think most people have that plan however it doesn't always work out how we want it to.Sometimes we just have to deal with what gets thrown at us.

Maybe you and DH could make a plan B ...
Does he know how you feel & does he want children?
DH and I came up with plan B when my periods stopped for 18mths after coming off the pill, so no chance of conceiving and decided we would apply to be parents of children needing adoption. I don't say that lightly, I know it's a big decision and it's not for everyone, but that was our plan B.
While I'm thinking about it, a friend seemed unable to conceive so they got a huge great mortgage on both their salaries - that was their plan B - they were in their late 20s at the time - they decided if they couldn't have children, they were at least going to have a whacking great big house.

can you travel...explore the world...learn a new skill...learn an instrument...set up a support group for other women.....?

Our Plan B was to do lots of volunteer work and have an impact on the future that way. We didn't need it though (sorry).

Our plan B was to use the money we would have spent on child care to travel the world. One daughter and two miscarriages later, we are now contemplating fostering. There are loads of children out there who could benefit from the love and care that you could give. It would certainly get rid of the pointlessness that you are feeling now.

I was going to learn to sail.