cry for help

[drzeus]

I phoned my GPs surgery just now. I have pulled my back and have been in so much pain. I also decided to mention that I'm finding coping very hard following my mum passing away 4 days prior to Christmas. I've been keeping my head down and trying to "get on with life" but finding it all increasingly difficult. I had a call from the docs to discuss my issues as there are no appointments. I got very upset when talking about mum. I was totally speechless however when the doctor said "and what do you expect us to do about that?" I don't know. You're the doctor. DH is off to pick up painkillers etc but I'm at a loss. I thought the doc might show a tiny bit of sympathy. Totally floored and now very very upset. I wish I'd not bothered.

I'm sorry to hear this, it sounds like you're really struggling. Please remember that it's really early days, and that grief can't be rushed, so don't be too hard on yourself if you're finding that you can't 'get on with life'. Have you contacted Cruse? Their number is: 0844 477 9400. They really helped me.

This is terrible. As it is only a short time ago that you lost your mum, it is completely normal to feel so upset and being in pain will just exacerbate things furthur. I hope you have people you can talk to and as pp says please consider bereavement counselling. The Drs response was really insensitive and I'm sorry that you didn't get better support.

That is totally uncalled for from the GP.I hope you can find support perhaps from another gp at the surgery.

I'd be complaining to the Practice Manager about that GP's attitude, quite frankly.
on your behalf, OP.

Sorry about your mum. I lost my mum not so long ago. I have good days and bad days. Thankfully though. My GP has been very understanding.
It must have taken you all your strength to open up and then you get greeted with what do you want us to do about it. That's something a 10 year old wouldn't say.
Definitely put in a complaint. And you have the right to change your GP. Hopefully you'll get one that realises. You're not there for the company and a day out.
That's the thing. I've noticed about a lot of Educated people. They may have all sorts of letters after their name, but their people skills empathy compassion and manners are very sadly lacking.