My lovely grandad

[CaitSith]

I feel bad even posting here given the awful things that some people are going through but my funny, caring, wonderful grandad left us this morning. Even though he was old it was completely unexpected until a couple of days ago, I was at that hospital for 18 hours yesterday and was ten minutes too late getting back this morning which I feel awful about. He was coming to us for Christmas Day and every time I spoke to him said how much he was looking forward to it, I just can't believe he won't be here now. I don't even know how to begin to tell my 3 year old DS, they adored each other. I'm just so, so sad.

I'm so sorry. I'm in a similar situation, but a bit further down the line. Sounds like you have had quick a shock so you need to be kind to yourself. My relative's death was kind of expected but it is still a very sad time and upsetting.

How lovely he was coming to you for Christmas Day and that he was looking forward to it. He was obviously much loved and I'm sure that was a comfort to him in his last days.
Have a short conversation with your DS. He may not fully understand at first so he may come back with questions. You need to be honest and factual so he doesn't worry that granddad 'fell asleep'.

You will be sad and it is okay to cry. But the memories of happier times will come back.

I'm so sorry. My grandad died 2 years ago on Boxing Day and I still miss him. He was a lovely man who actually taught me how men should treat those they love.

Yours sounds wonderful too, you're in my thoughts.

I'm sorry. Any close loss is awful.

I just lost my mum. I'm trying very hard to remember all the good Christmas times, and to know how much she was looking forward to coming up again this year. It's heartbreaking right now, but may be of some comfort in time.

Sending you a big virtual hug.

Thank you all, and I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. We've decided to wait until this weekend to tell DS, he's at nursery 8-5 today and tomorrow and if he has any questions or gets upset if rather he was home with me. Though I think the impending arrival of Santa might put it to the back of his mind for a while