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Nigel's headstone is up.

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Yorkiegirl · 12/12/2006 17:37

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Yorkiegirl · 13/12/2006 19:41

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amynnixmum · 13/12/2006 19:41

{{{hugs}}} My friend lost her dh Nov last year and I know her two boys (5 and 6) get a lot from going to see their Daddy and his special stone.
They also think Daddy has a special star and when they were in Rome last month her older son said "Look mummy, Daddy's star has come with us"

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Yorkiegirl · 13/12/2006 19:42

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BrandyTutter · 13/12/2006 19:42

goosebumps

glad it's up for you and dds

triplets · 13/12/2006 23:43

The headstone being put in place is another milestone isnt it? Brave you............. when Matthews headstone arrived we were there but did not know it was even ready, so I was shocked. He has a verse which was something that came into my head literally one morning three months after he died, it has his full name and his date of birth, thats it. Alot of people said they thought it strange not to have the date he died on it, but I couldnt bear that, to this day I hate to see the 2nd June written anywhere. Someone actualy said to me that because the date of his death isn`t there no-one will know how old he was when he die...........WE KNOW.

Gingerbear · 13/12/2006 23:51

Much love YG xx
Hard to know what best to do with the cross. Have the girls planted anything in the garden ?

fussymummy · 14/12/2006 00:56

YG so pleased for you that it's in place.

I'm sure your girls will love it, knowing that it's special for 'Their Daddy'.

When we go to the cemetary where our baby is buried, our other children always want to clean the stone.

We keep their old toothbrushes so they can clean the lettering properly!

I let them help arrange the flowers, and they draw pictures and write notes for their brother.

It helps having a special place to go. xx

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Yorkiegirl · 14/12/2006 07:58

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heavenlyghosty · 14/12/2006 08:05

Ah Yorkiegirl ... sending hugs to you from this side of the world {{{}}}
I can't imagine how hard this has all been for you. I think of you often. You are a strong lady and an inspiration to us all.
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bundle · 14/12/2006 09:57

yorkiegirl, I love the idea of a tractor..

my dad died a few weeks ago and he/mum wanted cremation, with no memorial at all..she's going to scatter his ashes in the park where they met more than 40 years ago (she wolf-whistled him, v loud..)

definitely a case of each to their own, as you say.

PeachyIsNowAChristmasFruit · 14/12/2006 10:30

DH would have a picture, a carnival float, because it is who he is. I saw ione I liked that had a stylised mother and baby, I liked that so we would probably have one each side- it seems wierd to discuss it, but I'd rather know than guess, iyswim.

Nan has a black marble one, Mum finds it hard to visit because fo the blank side for Grandad. And my best friend has none- her ashes were taken by her Mum (she was 16) and kept in her house, so after my wedding I put my bouquet under a tree in the cemetary of where she cremated. It was sad not having a formal place to leave them, but her Mum felt she had allen in with a bad crowd (not me!) and that led to her death (it didn't, it was an accident) and didn't want them able to visit her grave. Which is understandable: was a terrible time for her.

BethleCAM · 14/12/2006 10:42

Glad you have chosen the headstone that reflects Nigel, YG.

Sorry to hear about your father Bundle
My side of our family have tended towards cremations with the scattering of the ashes somewhere significant too.

My MIL recently died, in fact her funeral was only yesterday, but it was a burial, same as FIL.

bundle · 14/12/2006 10:53

thanks Cam, it feels pretty weird at the moment, up & down most days. was your MIL ill?

buktus · 14/12/2006 11:00

my sisters is a white head stone with a carved angel at the top, her name and dates with
'twinkle, twinkle, little star'
as it was her favourite song

tortoiseBells · 14/12/2006 11:02

It sounds lovely YG - and St Cuthberts Cross is very special as well. xxx

sandcastlesforanaussiexmas · 14/12/2006 11:09

Yorkie,

Good to hear that!

Glad you went with what you wanted instead of what everyone else wanted.

BethleCAM · 14/12/2006 11:11

Bundle, yes but only diagnosed a couple of months ago.

And your father?

PinkTinsel · 14/12/2006 11:14

glad it's made his place of rest a bit more special for ye. {{{{hugs}}}}

bundle · 14/12/2006 11:17

he had (early onset, he was 64 when he died) Alzheimers but only really got ill this year, my mum couldn't cope looking after him and he'd been admitted to an assessment unit, his organs started to fail and he died of pneumonia. it was very upsetting to see him at the end, he probably only weighed about 6 stone and barely recognised us

BethleCAM · 14/12/2006 11:40

Sorry to hijack your thread YG.

Bundle

bundle · 14/12/2006 11:43

yes, sorry for hijack, x

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Yorkiegirl · 14/12/2006 13:57

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EllieHsMum · 18/12/2006 10:42

Yorkiegirl.

Sorry newish to MN, only just come across this thread. Hope you & your girls continue to do well. (hope this is the right thing to say, its so difficult) Glad you have a special place to go. Wishing you a very Merry Xmas & a Much Happier 2007?x.x

littlemissbossy · 24/12/2006 20:09

Just saw this and wanted to wish you and your dd's a happy christmas yg x

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