mum passed away suddenly

[hilbil21]

We found my mum this past Monday she had died on (we think) the Sunday of what the post mortem has told us was an enlarged heart. We saw her on Saturday for a while and she was absolutely fine. I'm an only child and my dad passed away 4 years ago. I'm really struggling knowing I'm "alone" although I have my son (8 months) and fiancé, I don't feel like I have anyone left! Hoping I get over it xx

[hilbil21]

No not at all I'm not someone who is bothered about being "outed" lol. Yeah Aberdeen. He currently does 2 weeks on 2 weeks off and is going onto 3 weeks on 3 weeks off. I saw my mum quite a lot when he's away so I'm scared of really feeling lonely, even though I have a lot of friends and his family X

[Biscuitsneeded]

No advice, OP, but sending you love and sympathy.

[magimedi]

That regime is tough, hilbil, but Aberdeen was a very friendly place when I lived there (last century!!) & I hope it continues to be so.

Was your Mum an Aberdonian?

I miss butteries!!

[thesandwich]

Sending

[tiredandhungryalways]

Sending you love x

[larry5]

My mother died just over a week ago - I was with at the time - of a heart attack and although I do have siblings it is very strange to realise that we are now the oldest generation. My thoughts are with you now.

[NewLife4Me]

I'm so sorry, this happened to me too.
I agree with others that time will make it easier, but the feelings of being on your own, parentless never goes.

I'm a few years on now and also 50 myself so I suppose it's to be expected if they are older, but it always seems such a shock.

It hasn't been any time yet, my love. Be kind to yourself and please post on here for support when you need it.

[DeepBlueLake]

Am so sorry OP, I lost my dad when I was 13 and although my mum is still alive, she lives in New Zealand and I am also an only child.

I highly recommend counselling, I was in denial for years and it wasn't until I was in my early 20s I started to grieve properly and accept his death when I received counselling.

The 'firsts' are really difficult, especially with Christmas just coming up. And don't be afraid to have a good cry when you need too. I went through some childhood mementos with DS1 the other day and it just reminded me how much I feel 'robbed' of having a father.

Be kind to yourself and take it easy

[hilbil21]

The funeral has now been ( it was on Friday) and the feeling of anxiety has lifted that I was suffering from badly. I'm still upset but thankfully the anxious feeling has gone. Just wanted to thank people who posted on here it's nice to know I'm not alone in what's happened xxx