cancer at christmas.

[littlepiggie]

My mum phoned yesterday to tell me that my nana is to have a scan on the 28th dec as she has a large shadow on one of her lung. She has been unwell for a few months, but has been getting worse to the point where one of the family have to be with her most of the time, she is in her sixties and was very active until earlier this year.
I am 9 weeks pg, so at the hight of ms that seems to last all day, and i also have a 7 month old baby who has suffered v badly with reflux (threw up blood).
Family have asked if i can help (only my mum and dad know about baby), mum has told them there is no way at the moment, i am 45 min drive away becouse of dh job so cant just pop in every day as i wish i could, but i cant even face a walk to the shop most days.
I feel so bad, my 12 week scan is on the 4th jan, but feel this is the wrong tome to tell them.

so sorry that you have all this to deal with - especially over Christmas when emotions run high & evryone is over-tired anyway. I think you are right to wait til 4th jan before you tell the rest of the family. your Mum will cover you - don't worry about the rest of the family - they will understand once they know. It is important that you look after yourself & your 2 babies. Maybe you could send your Nana a letter or a postcard to say hello. Or some flowers? or a photo of your baby.

Good luck, stay well.

sorry to hear this ......((((((((hug)))))))

you know your family best and whether it is right to say now or now......your priority is your own health and your DS....agree with the idea of sending flowers et.

can you say you are under the weather and cannot visit for a while?

can always MSN me or e-mail if you are needing a virtual hug xx

Thanks, already thought to send a card, think a photo of ds is a good idea, he has the same name as her dad. Will try to get up in the next couple of weeks, but my nana and grandad are coming to my mum and dads for a few hours christmas day, so will see her then.