My neice just lost her baby

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That's it really.

She is 17, 23 weeks. Due 4 weeks before her mum. She had to give birth. Choose not to name her. Baby was 1lb.

She had been bleeding and not told anyone, then went on to develope stomach cramps.

I can't be there with her but apperntlt her df is being great!

Don't know why I'm posting, but I just needed to get it out!

ML, thank you for thinking of us. Her mum said late last night (your time) she wasn't do so well. Just falling apart. She went home with her df (they have thier own place) saying she wanted to be with just him.

They had a blessing & named her. Which I am quite greatful for, I don't know for sure, but it might help. Don't want them regretting it. But understand that their heads aren't here at the mo.

I pray she makes it thru this! I really really do!

She spoke to her nan, but she couldn't understand her as she was crying so hard. She won't volunter info, her mum only found out about the naming when her MIL told her.

Oh God - the poor thing - it's so sad.

How old is she?

buda, just 17!

Poor thing - she shouldn't have to be facing anything like this yet. She is so young.

too young buda. I know it is hard at any age, but to have your body go thru this, when you are little more than a child. In her first relationship....with her first love...just so terribly unjust!

oh candcastles, cant help but keep peeping in this thread.
Im going cold/goose pimply just reading & thinking about her.
Maybe they just need to be together (understandable) & left together for a little while.
That is hard! For all of your family around her, as its so natural to want to support & help them, but you just have to respect their wishes.
Everyone deals with grief in different ways, & thats when its gets difficult for other people in how to react to them or offer help, support & condolences.

My heart goes out to you all, they will 'come round' in their own time.
At least they know you are all there, & not alone.

ML, couldn't agree more. They need to be on their own. She is quite a private person, so will find public grieving hard. They have spoke about a funeral, almost expressng their wishes for it just to be them.

I am worried she will reject her mum, as her pregnancy will be such a harsh reminder. I can understand her not wanting to be with her. Too painful to see that bump there, when she knows hers is gone. her pain must be magnificent, but how would she cope with that reminder?

I am glad, in a way that I am not there. One less person for her to have to see, iyswim. Maybe she can come spend some time here, if she feels that is what she needs/wants!

oh no...what a terrible loss xxxxx

I am now thinking that that is why they did the blessing, without telling anyone. Very private, very my niece!

I can't keep my eyes open!! Am off to bed, will keep you all updated.

Thank you for your comments & support. Means alot!

Thank you all for your support, it had menat so much.

Just thought I'd update you all as you have been so kind. They are holding a funeral on Wednesday for their dd. Just the two of them. I wish them all the love & strength they need to say goodbye.

Thanks for the update - have been wondering how your niece is doing. Poor love.

That's why I thought I'd post Buda. I'd like to know too. Only found out the latest today, she is doing better on the surface, they both are. They are staying at her mums alot too. She keeps getting into bed with her mum!