My partner's dad died 3 weeks ago and he's fallen to pieces but only with me. Can anyone give any advice? His dad was 84, hes 47, he's from a family of 7 and they're all very close but don't discuss their feelings particularly. Everyone is being stoical and getting on with stuff and he is semeing that way when he's with them, even joking around, but when he's with me, he's angry, distant, touchy, he's sleeping in the spare room, not helping that much with our toddler, causing fights around him and picking on me in front of him. I know all this is normal but I am struggling big time as have no support network myself. Can anyone give me any advice on how to cope? I am in tears whenever he leaves the room - he storms out and out of the house at the drop of a hat. We have had a year from hell and I'm all out of resources. The Dr just prescribed me (and him) antids to get through this but I dont think I'm depressed, just at my wits end after a terrible year, needing him to not pick on me and take his dads death out on me, but he just wont stop - whats the answer? How do I cope with this type of grief? Where do I get strength from?
This is our year just to put it in context.
The year began when my partner wasn't paid (£20K) by a friend he was working for, and then the friend terminated the job when I got taken into hospital with a rupturing ectopic in April. We had been doing IVF as am 44, that was our last embryo and our last chance. We did end up doing one last IVF cycle but it didnt work. My partner was unemployed for 3 months and ended up getting a job but working away from home. We have a two year old and moved to somewhere quite remote at the start of the year and so I have become increasingly isolated and alone most days. I don't have a support network at all - we live in Australia (partner is Australian), moved 3 years ago after my mum died of leukeamia so we could start a new positive life but things havent worked out with his work and we had to move cities soon after our son was born and so life has been very disrupted and I havent managed to make many friends. And none where we now live. Literally spend whole days alone, as hard as Ive tried to meet people theyre just aren't that many around where we live. There arent any jobs here either so thats not an option and when we originally moved to Melbourne I was retraining but that option isn't open to me here either.
We just got back from our first trip back to the UK in 3 years 5 weeks ago and my partners dad died two weeks later. Its full on and I'm feeling really desperate and have no idea how to cope with this, or him. I am generally very resiliant but out of ideas and energy. Thank you for reading if you've got this far. And for any advice you can give.