Due date approaching and sister is in labour

[doodlebop]

I had a miscarriage in May of this year and my due date is rapidly approaching (4th Dec), my sister who was due same day as me and gone into labour today and i just don't know what to do. My husband is away at the moment and i just feel like i can't cope. I burst into tears everytime the phone rings as i think it is going to be my mum or my sister telling me that the baby has arrived. I am just so upset and down at the moment and have no one to talk to who really understands what it is like to loose a very much wanted baby.

So sorry for your loss.

Your sister and family obviously know when your due date was, and i'm sure it must feel awful for them to.

Especially knowing that your sister is due anytime.

I'm sure they're treading on eggshells not knowing what to say.

I hope your sister will make you a huge part in her babys life, you'll be an auntie.

I know you'd rather be a mum though.

Do you think you'll ever try again?

Doodlebop, I understand where you are coming from. Even though I am not at my due date yet (feb) I am dreading it (lost my baby 8.11). My sister in law is also pregnant and due in Jan... it will be such a hard time. A time of mixed emotions.... yes I will be an auntie and will be glad they have a healthy baby but it will be an incredibly sad day as I will wish so much it was me...I am already thinking about the day I am told they have had their child. theirs will also be the first child in the family and it break my heart even knowing that my parents will be with them enjoying the baby. But like fussymummy has said in time you and me will adjust and will never be without the little nephew/niece they provide and it will also (in time) be amazing being an auntie... I wish you much love during this time - yet another emotional hurdle to get over, but you will get through it...(most likely I will be posting in Jan beside myself about the pending birth) Best wishes X

mum called this morning to say that sister had a healthy baby girl at 11.20 last night, weighing 6.5lb. At 09:00 this morning they had to put little one is scbu for breathing problems but they think she will be okay. doesn't seem quite so bad now although monday will be hard.

I just wanted to add my support to you as well. My due date would have been 31st Dec, so New Years eve will be a write off for me this year. I got pregnant again quickly but mc again, baby would have been due 5th March. Im dreading both dates and have just found out a close friend is pregnant.

I dont know that there is anything you can really do to make it better, just be honest with people if you dont feel like singing and dancing when you hear their good news, and take your time in seeing the new baby. Im sure (and hoping for myself) that everyone will understand if I am quieter than usual when any baby news is announed.

Lets hope 2007 brings pregnancy and healthy babies to all of us.

thinking of you today!!

Thinking of you today.

The week I m/c DH's step sister had a baby girl and called her the name I would have chosen for my LO - that hurt! Time heals we just have to go through all of this agony first.

Hi doodlebop have been thinking of you today.

Hope things haven't been too painful for you.

thanks for your messages yesterday it wasn't to bad. sister in law is pregnant now, just seems 2 b babies everywhere

I agree with that one!!! My sister in law is pregnant, my two friends are pregnant, my next door but one neighbour is pregnant, people I know from work are pregnant and the lady opposite my house has just had her baby, just after Bertie... I looked out my window yesterday and the dad had just picked the baby up and kissed it... it was heartbreaking...Kept asking my hubbie why it had to be our baby that died when there are so many out there - he said that it had to be someone's and would not wish how I feel on my worst enemy..