My dear old dad has just died aged 88, it was expected after a long illness but we're still very sad. I just need some hand-holding please, I have some lovely RL friends and they've all been lovely about dad but I don't want to burden them with anything else. My 54 year old brother was diagnosed with stage 3 prostate cancer in May and the prognosis isn't great (could be as little as 2 years). We decided not to tell mum because of what was going on with dad but now that he's passed away, feel that we'll have to do so within the next couple of months.
I'm dreading this more than I can say. She's been devastated by the loss of my dad and I have no idea how she's going to cope with this new situation.
(I also have another brother BTW). We do have to tell her, although he's fit and well now and his treatment is non-invasive, he may be offered radiotherapy soon and this will obviously effect him more. Dad was buried in a really deep plot last week with enough room on top for mum. But now I'm thinking we might well be putting my brother in there first :(