I dont know what to say really?

[mosschops30]

What do you say to someone who has lost a baby at 12 wks.

Is a txt wrong? (we normally txt) I wouldnt normally call her, have passed on msg that I am thinking of her through mutual friend.

Just want her to know how sorry I am without making an arse of myself

if you normally text - then do that - and just say you are sad for her and thinking about her.

I personally wouldnt text her i would buy / or make a card and send it to her.

text saying you're not sure if text is appropriate and saying how sorry you are and expressing that you're there if she wants to call you.

be honest.

can't go wrong.

thank you, i think i will txt. Not sure how I feel about sending cards, sometimes i think its inappropriate but i suppose what works for someone doesnt for another

When I MC I got a text saying 'can I ring you?' so I sent a test back saying yes so they did.

xxx

er 'text.

text her

If she is ready to talk she will call or test you.

Pls send her a card or something. I hated it when people didn't feel able to contact me when I miscarried at 12 weeks. It just feels like people aren't taking you or your loss seriously. I am not a card or sentimental person usually, but I will never forget those people that made the effort and how hurt I was by those that didn't. To me, my baby, my plans had all died and really appreciated the thoughts and messages from people in cards (all 2 of them...)