i lost my son 9 years ago tomorrow

[xmasmummy]

my son was sb at 43 weeks nine years ago tomorrow. no one but me seems to remember and i am finding it hard. he was my first and i was just 16 when i had him. i have since had four live births but the pain never goes. i am meeting my mum in town and i dont even think she remembers what day it is. what should i do?

thinking of your whole family today, xmasmummy.

tell her you always find today difficult - and tell her why. She may not have realised the significance of the actual date - but she will surely understand and remember what you went through.

So sad for all of you missing your beautiful, precious children.

Xmasmummy, I will light a candle for Robert John. He sounds like a perfect little angel. Some are just to good for this world and he was one. Hopefully our angels can play together. Best Wishes XX

Thinking of you today as you remember your beauitful little boy Robert John. I am crying so much here. I am for your loss. I am so thankful that you now have 4 beautiful children, but I know nothing could replace your beautiful son and I thank God for him and everything he means to you. xxxx

just a quick update- i didnt say anything to my mum, we spent a lovely day shopping and she bought me some nice things i just didnt want to upset her by mentioning it. am ok though had a nice day and had my thoughts of robert quietly and in my head. found in the end i didnt need to say anything, my thoughts alone were enough to commemorate the day. thank you all for your kind messages they have bought much comfort, so much that i didnt need anyone else to remember. xxxx

glad you had a nice day.
Take care x

I was thinking of you and glad to see your message this morning.
I am sure your mum was thinking the same as you and she must have been glad to share the day with you.

Hello Xmasmummy.................its such a difficult one this. We lost our son in 1994, our first and at that time, only child. The first year after all the family sent a card on the day, it helped, I needed to know that they were thinking of him, of us. Now we never receive a single card, though my Mum and brothers do take flowers to the cemetery. Its the same on his birthday. It may seem silly, but I so need them to send a card, esp on his birthday. A birthday is the most special day, the day you were born, he may not be with us in this life, BUT.....it IS still his birthday, and it hurts that I don`t have any cards. I am so sorry for you, it hurts, and it always will.