My baby was born asleep at 20 weeks and one day

[ButtonBowden]

Hello,
I am wondering if anyone has any experience of or advice on telling my 9yr old and 11 year old about their lost sibling or on how to arrange a funeral for a baby. My children were not aware of the pregnancy as we had kept it quiet as my sister lost a baby recently. I want my children to know about their sibling but I cannot bear the idea of their pain and I am not feeling very strong at the moment.

Any advice would be great,

thanks x

Well done for organising all that. You are much more together than I was.

I'm glad you've told your other children and can now start finding a place for lily in your family.

You sound like you're doing really well (I don't mean that to sound as patronising as it does)

Do you have a debrief booked with a consultant? They should be able to give you one to go over what happened and any implications. This, and the service, helped my a lot in the first few weeks and months.