Life after sucide

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Been watching the programme that was on bbc last night and I'm not really sure why I'm posting but the program has been really tough on me as throughout my life I've lost 4 people different people to sucide. How do you move on from sucide? Especially when you have no answers. As I said before not really sure why I'm posting.

I can't begin to imagine how you move on - it must be incredibly hard. I'm sorry. Have you thought about bereavement counselling?

I've thought about it in one case we had a one of session at work but it was just a one off. I suppose I've never felt like I needed it. One case was my grandmother (who had terminal cancer and would have died within the year), two were close friends and 4th was a colleague.

I think learning to accept that it was nothing to do with you is one way of dealing with it. Normal reactions are wondering why, did I cause it, could I have done something to prevent it...followed by anger that they've left you feeling like this, anger at being abandoned when you still want them in your life and then just huge sadness that you just don't understand why.

There are nearly always mental health issues involved, sometimes obvious, sometimes not. This is out of our control too.

I'm the child of a mother who was murdered by her father who then took his own life. I was 6. Living with that has been hard but now I'm older and after trawling through various places to get more information I've accepted it. He had ptsd. Not an excuse but a reason.

So sorry to hear your story butterfly. I I thought the programme was much needed and very good. SOBS is a wonderful and simple organisation. I do not know how I would have coped without their kind compassion and advice.

I didn't see it but I have a sibling who has obviously had the same issues as me. I've had counselling, so has she, we talk a lot. I think I accepted it a while ago now but the story is so complicated that there's been a lot to deal with over the years. The above is a very simplified version.

I think in the case of someone who is terminally ill it's more understandable. But the majority of times those left behind are bewildered and lost and really struggle to cope. I'm glad you've had good support, it's hard to find and invaluable finding someone who understands.