One of my most favourite people died tonight.

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My SIL. My amazing, funny, strong SIL. She was young, 28, and whilst she had many medical issues, none were life threatening.

Yet she is no longer here.

Her Mum found her, after being concerned that she hadnt heard from her in a couple of days. She was in her favourite chair infront of the TV, drink at her feet, telly on. We dont know yet how long she had been gone. Possibly as far back as late Saturday night.

My strong, capable DH is upset and trying to hold it together for his mum. I will never forget seeing his mum sat at SILs feet crying.

We had a wonderful day with SIL about a week ago. She treasured my children. I really dont know what to say to Dd who is only just three.

I dont know what to do for MIL and my other SIL aside from offering practical support. I've been blessed never to have encountered a death of a loved one until now.

We are home, and DH has managed to fall asleep. How good a nights sleep he will have is anyones guess.

I dont really know why im posting apart from just wanting to get my feelings down somewhere.

She was amazing.

i am so sorry. what a terrible loss and shock for you and your family.

x

Im sorry for your loss ThinkIvenpbeenhacked, some times things just don't make any sense, and I'm sure you'll miss her forever.

It's fabulous you have so many happy memories of her.

Maybe make a scrapbook of pictures and stories with your DD?
Write down your Dds memories of her aunty for her, and print up some photos of her and family members?
Ask family members for a few memories of a particular day a photo was taken, so you can paste them into the book together, with little bits and bobs from the day.

Again, so sorry for your troubles. Try and get some sleep for yourself now.

Thanks. Good idea on the scrapbook. Dd remembers everything as it is, so I want to keep that flicker of a memory burning as long as I can and photos and videos will really help with that.

We have to visit FIL tomorrow to tell him. He and MIL are separated, and he is quite on the peripheral of SilS life, but this will be truly awful news to have to give to him. DH is insistant he goes and tells him, and that none of us were to phone tonight, as there is nothing that can be done. I will taoe FIL to the chapel of rest tomorrow.

Im feeling very cold and shivvery so going to make a hot water bottle and maybe stick an episode of Friends on to fall asleep to. Hopefully the baby will have one of his rare long sleeps so I can benefit from that.