First anniversary of my mother's death

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I've booked the day off, but that is it.

Her ashes were scattered at a beach 200 miles away and the anniversary is mid-week, so I can't just pop over. No relatives near us, including my dad or sister (different countries/cities). DH will be at work, the DC at nursery.

Any suggestions for how to pass a quiet day of remembrance? We had quite a difficult relationship and I remember her with decidedly mixed feelings, but there is still some love there and I'm still sad.

Thanks all.

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I think you should do something nice for you that you maybe normally wouldn't. as you say there will be mixed feelings it will be a nice way to acknowledge and spend some time with your thoughts rather than being a large gesture.

I always think that the best thing is to spend a short while remembering, and giving yourself time to get upset, then do something positive.

Walk somewhere beautiful, then buy and plant something. Then go somewhere with lots of people.

I marked the first year when my dad died, remembered the second, and several years on, just allow myself a short time to remember.

I'd do something I enjoyed doing, I think. A walk, or a trip to a museum. Do you have a friend you could ask along?