Anyone had a m/c then not wanted to try again?

[northerner]

I m/c in April at about 9 weeks. Planned and wanted baby. Have not ttc since.

I have a ds who is 4 and actually feel pretty complete. No real desire anymore for another baby. Feel that my m/c baby would ahve come at teh right time, and now, i just don't know. I have a few niggling thoughts about ds being an only, but so am I and don't see it as a negative.

Think life is easier now we are out of babyhood, how would i cope with a newborn. I'm only 30 so perhaps I'll feel differently in a few years, but tehn I'll have a huge gap. Arrr, all these thoughts.

Am I even making sense or rambling?

i think you have to follow your conscience and heart in this.

as you wrote, you've got time on your side.

hi northener! yep no exactly how you feel. i am 34 and have a 14,15 in 2 wks daughter. i have had 8 m/c and during some of those have had all the thoughts you have said about .is the gap now to big ,am i to old now ,would i cope now as dd is at the independant age and i can just nip out and leave her,and loads more . i dont feel totally complete as a family as i would so love to give dd a bro/sis,but then i have her and i should be so grateful ,and i am .
the thoughts just go on and on dont they .
i have the hospital to mo at paddington and then really need to make my decision as to wot to do ,but really just havent a clue.
maybe you jus need a little more time,maybe when your dh starts school it will make you realise how fast they grow up and want those baby days back.mine keeps telling me she leaves school in 18 months time and that scares the pants off me as she wont really need me then and that is really getting to me.
its so hard but your heart will lead you when the time is rite,enjoy your ds in the mean time as they grow up before you no it .
take care x