Physical symptoms is this normal?

[drudgewithagrudge]

My Dh died two days ago. I was prepared for the psychological effects but not for the way my body feels.
When I am with other people I feel reasonably well but left on my own I get palpitations, ache all over and generally feel like I am going down with flu.
Even slight exertion wears me out. Is this normal or am I ill?

I am so sorry for your loss.

This sounds like a normal stress reaction to me.

Do you have a Cruse bereavement service near you? Or you could call their helpline - they should be able to reassure you.

Also, maybe book an appointment with your GP, who may be able to put you in touch with other local services.

So sorry to hear you have lost your DH, and physical symptoms are not unusual when you are grieving - and it's also natural to feel completely exhausted. You may also get ill in the accepted sense of the word, as your immune system will also be low at the moment because your body is using up its resources just to get through the day.

Be gentle with yourself xxx

Sorry for your loss. Please go and see your gp for their help and assistance.....

Thanks for the replies. I think the symptoms come from my mind because when I am with other people I am OK.

My GP is wonderful. Dh died at home and I was alone. She came straight out, calmed me down,made me a cup of coffee and stayed with me for half an hour until my children arrived.

Absolutely normal I think. When my father died I felt like I had 'flu. Exhausted, fuzzy-headed, on the verge of tears all the time and everything seemed like such an effort.

So sorry for your loss. I hope you have people around who can support you. Do take it easy and accept offers of help.

drudge I am so sorry.

My husband died very suddenly at the end of November. I had headaches and bouts of nausea every day for about 6 weeks as well as other unusual aches and pains. It didn't help that I didn't sleep much for the first couple of weeks either.
I think that it probably is a common reaction.

It is such an enormous thing to have to cope with and there is so much to do. It all takes it's toll.

As others have said, accept any help offered. I found people, even those I didn't know very well, were very kind. And all the 'official' people - registrar, people at the bank, etc. were all very understanding and helpful.

Take care.

It's totally normal. Xxx
I lost my DP years ago and felt physically ill for ages. I promise you it will eventually get easier. Xxx

I'm so sorry you lost your DH. It's just awful.

I think it must be normal, I know I felt similar, but there's no reason why you couldn't be ill as well. I'm sure people must get ill when they've just been bereaved, we don't get immunity to everything just because we've become widows! But as you feel worse when you're alone, it probably is because of your loss.

Look after yourself

It's normal, I think. Both my mum and I had chest pain when my dad passed in August and it's only just stopped for me. Mum has had loads of odd physical symptoms but I didn't tell her about mine as I didn't want to worry her, but I just assumed it was stress and that it would go away. It has, pretty much. And I think she's better, as she's not said much.

Oh drudgewithagrudge i am so sorry to read this.Please look after yourself,so sorry for your loss.xx

Much hugs op. Thanks for posting because I feel more physically ill than sad really. Better when I have a " shield" to hide behind - DS went to the bank with me today for instance.

I'm getting terrible migraines every day. It's a week tomorrow since my husband died.

I got the feeling someone was sitting on my chest after my husband died. I was having a heart to heart with a close friend who lost her husband (same name and same illness) a few years before mine and she felt the same.