Did I pass my baby?

[Hope10]

I though I was 10 weeks pregnant last Monday, but after I started bleeding a little on Sunday I went for a scan and they said that the sac was there but there was no baby.
I felt so confused, I didn't understand where my baby was, I was sure I'd felt her move 2 weeks earlier, my husband did too. They were saying it was an anembryonic pregnancy, or blighted ovum.
After the scan, I bled more this Tuesday with quite a lot of clots, one was about 3 inches long and dimpled and I wondered if it was the placenta.
Then the bleeding calmed down on wednesday and Thursday, but Thursday night and last night (Friday) I had very strong cramps (needed paracetemol) and today I passed what I can only describe that looked like a tampon, it was exactly that size and shape, and of course I am now wondering if it was my baby, even though when they took the scan on Monday they said there was no baby in the sac.
Has anyone had anything similar happen to them, where the bleeding and pain was bad but it seemed to lighten then suddenly the cramps and pain come back and you pass a large tampon like clot?
I feel very sad, I already have a beautiful one year old daughter but I thought she would have a brother or sister and all of a sudden my world feels cold and empty.
I would really appreciate your advice. Thank you.

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Hope, so sorry this has happened to you. I've no experience of anything like this but couldn't ignore your post

FWIW though, people can't feel a baby moving at all in the first trimester, so what you felt 2 weeks ago would have to be something else. HTH.

Hi Hope. So sorry to hear your news. I m/c in April, an passed my baby which looked like how you described. I took it to the hospital and they confirmed I had passed the feotus. It is very upsetting. It is a lonely time, is your dh/dp being supportive. Have you contacted the m/c association?

me too hope , had to post something--- if you had felt something when 8 weeks PG, would not have been the baby IMO.... there is no reason you will not recover from this ordeal and have another baby- of course your world feels cold and empty - you were expewcting a baby, and now there is no baby...

give yourself some time to heal,, hopefully someone with some personal experience will be along soon...just to let you know there are people thinking of you, evenif don't know waht you are going through..

I'm so sorry to hear your news Hope10. My first pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage at 10.5 weeks. It started with spotting and then gradually the bleeding increased, as did the discomfort. I was quite nervous about what a mis-carriage might involve from the point of view of what I might see and might/might not be able to identify. A couple of days later I then had what I now know to be mini-contractions and miscarried in two stages some hours apart - both trips to the loo resulting in passing something that looked like a big bloody jelly mass, about the size of half a grapefruit.

That was about 5.5 years ago now. At the time I thought I would never stop crying again as it was such a devastating thing to happen, but it does get easier with time. Obviously that baby was not supposed 'to be' for one reason or another but I will never forget 'him'. I now have two very precious DD's but I will never forget my first pregnancy, no matter how short.

Things WILL get better. Just take it easy on yourself and let yourself grieve ... and give your DD1 (and DH/DP) lots and lots of hugs ... that will help.

Hi and thanks to everyone who said such kind things, it made me feel better.
Thanks Northener for saying what happened to you, I actually rang the hospital where I had the scan and tried to find it if it could have been our baby that I passed today.
The reason I am wondering is that I was told absolutely at the scan that there was no baby in the sac, so I suppose I'm thinking how could that have been the baby.
Also in terms of the size of the tissue that came away (sorry TMI) it was 8 or 9 centimetres long, which I thought was too big for 10 weeks? I could be wrong though. The nurse said that I will pass quite a few things, the placenta, sac etc and they could all look like this so I am really hoping that's what it was.
But at the end of all of this, I feel that I made the right decision for me in choosing a natural miscarriage rather than a D & C, as I am great believer in the body knowing what it needs to do, it is painful, but nothing as bad as labour. You can get through it if that's what you choose to do.
Big hugs to everyone one else going through this, and I think we have to just take one day at a time.

Hope10...I was given a scan and after heavy bleeding in my first pregnancy and told there was nothing there. After weeks of pain, fever and feeling really ill I passed a huge clump of foetal tisue - thats what my GP described it as. I was hysterical. I will never forget scooping it up out of the loo - hideous experience. It took me a long time to feel physically (and emotionally) well again but I did and I now have a beautiful 3 year old son. Take time to grieve. Thinking of you

Hi Hope10.
Hope this is niot too much info, but this is what happened to me.
When I had my miscarriage (which started 3 weeks ago), at the beginning I passed smallish clots which were thick and dark red and looked just like bits of liver, and were about the size of a squashed strawberry.
After several days I had a really heavy bleed (which required me to be admitted to hospital). During this time I passed bright red jelly-like clots which ranged from the size of a your middle finger, to an egg, to about the size of a new bar of soap.
After that, it went back to normal period type bleeding with no more clots. After a week, it tailed off to light bleeding / spotting for a week. After that I got a browny-red tinged discharge, which seemed to stop and start.