Is it OK to do this?

[Pennies]

A friend of mine died suddenly and tragically recently. I am unable to go to the funeral. I met her husband once briefly and I bought a card to send to him but once I started writing I just couldn't seem to stop and what was going to be a condolence card is a full blown letter about why she was my friend. It almost reads like a eulogy.

I'm reticent to send it as I don't want to upset, but then it is from the heart and I presume he would appreciate knowing how much she also meant to other people. Or would he?

All views appreciated.

I would say yes send it. I'm sure he willappreciate to know how much she was loved by others and it can be something to look back on in the future.

Sounds lovely, send it

Hi Pennies

i'm sorry for your loss.... i have not had a bereavement like this...but when friends have, i have always taken the time to right more than a quickj 'in sympathy' note.

i make it as personal as i can and have always had a positive, if tearful response...who are delighted that other people had seen and appreciated the qualities they loved in their loved one...

if its from the heart, i think you should send it...

'write more' sorry, appalling typing.

I think he will really appreciate the letter and your outpouring of affection for his wife...but it may be a letter he puts away unread for a while.
I would definitely send it, Pennies, but I might put it in a separate envelope with a shorter note/card explaining what is in the envelope.
I think he will be incredibly touched. There will be people out there who knew her well too, won't think to do this, or who will assume it won't be welcome.
I am so sorry your friend died. Sudden and premature deaths are so hard to deal with

send it. I really appreciated personal comments and anecdotes when my mum died. Some from people I had never met who were on her Christmas card list. One told me a funny story about how they met when my brother was a baby. She was till in touch with another mum from around that time and she wrote a letter too, it was lovely.

oh send it im sure it will be well received,my parents had a couple of letters like this when my sister died and it meant a lot to them.

Thanks everyone. Marina I like your idea re. two envelpoes and I think I'll do that, just in case.

I just re-read it. I miss her.

marina - what a sensitive thought...

Pennies ((hugs)) ..its so sad nothing else to say ...

Definately send it...