I am not liking being classified as being a 'widow'

[Yorkiegirl]

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Jeez I'm not surprised

It DOES sound awful

Who has used the phrase?

you're classified as a yorkie to me

I just haven't made up my mind whether you're a chocolate bar or a small hairy yappy thing though

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It does sound ageing.
Have people used it often?
Could you describe yourself as a bereft wife. No, that's not much better.

sorry .. out of place humour

no you're right it does seem difficult

I'd tick other.... and then fill in Yorkie oh chocolately cousin! Great suggestion.

Well we know that you're a wee young darling.

Gosh I know what you mean about those forms though

I am divorced but living with someone

If I ticked Divorced I feel old and a bit of a failure

If I tick Living with Someone then I sound more sensible that I actually am

There is a never a Married When Too Young And Now Divorced from Trannsexual Husband And Living With New And More Appropriate Life Partner option

Those forms are bloody awful

Hmm, yes I thought about this a month or so ago Yorkie, really having to tick that box I bet. (and I bet half the time you are thinking, does it really bloody matter? )

why cant you still say your are married alot of that is for data colection. if you want just omit that bit. you are still referring to yourself as Mrs then let other ponder on your status.

Yes WHY is it necessary?

Those forms should be called 'Dragging Up Your Miserable Past, Failures!'

agree YG, foul word - connotations of old wrinkly dears in black veils.

When one of my friends died her Dh always referred to himself as being married even when introduced to new people.
I guess like you he simply did feel married - who would dare challenge you if that is how you wish to be known??

All pigeonholing is wrong unless it actually has some purpose. It's someone defining you with a limited amount of information without reference to the real essence of you.

you are not a widow !!! you are still mrs and you are still married you still have a husband people just cant see him and he is your very very special person thats how i look at it it does help

i allways tick married dont even think twice as i AM !!! also when i picked my prescription up they put you as ms but i asked them to change it they dont have the right !!!

I had to start ticking the widow box when I was 23. It really is horrible. It seems so unnatural that young women can possibly fall into that category.
I did feel that it was a bit unnecessary to tick boxes though because I felt like I was wearing a neon sign over my head anouncing "my husband is dead". Very strange, but my grief was so overwhelming it seemed that people must be able to see it.
Hope you are OK Yorkie girl. It's a long journey, but you can do it and feel good again. We dont leave them behind, they travel the journey with us.xx

I dont understand why we have to be put in neat little sections. We are women and they are men why does anyone need to know more?

Come to this post late but when I was widowed young (at 24, long story) I never ticked any box for the same reason. Seems to me a bizarre thing to have to do anyway!?

tee hee Yorkie

I could set you up with my mother's Young Widows Club that she used to go to in Birstall

they were terrifying

sorry just reread thread and someone said something about out of place humour

hope haven't offended