A year ago today dad started treatment...

[MairyHinge]

We were so full of hope that he'd had tests, we knew what we were dealing with ( oesophageal cancer), and he started a chemo and radio therapy treatment plan.
Every day for 5 weeks we had to go to st James in Leeds, but I didn't mind.
Dad went thru the treatment without any problems, and he did what he was told. ' have this treatment and you'll probably have another 5 years'
He died in June
He wasn't ready to die, he did what he was told! In February his scan was clear, but by June he was 'riddled' with it and died 10 days after being told it was terminal. Even then they said he'd have a few months.

It's so bloody unfair. He was such a strong man, who did what the drs told him, went faithfully to leeds every day ( always at riush hour on the m62!!)

Just wanted to write it down.

i'm so sorry. it is a shit cancer and it sounds like a really aggressive one too.

How awful, I'm so sorry. From February to June, to be clear then riddled with it must have been such a shock. Cancer is just horrible.

I'm so very sorry my love, we went through the same with my Grandad (he was only in his 50's) he'd been very well until then, they gave us two years - and he died in less than 2 months. Cancer has taken quite a number of my family and friends, it's a bastard thing. Life can be very, very unfair :( xx

Thanks all. Cancer is indeed a bastard. Nearly took me 17 years ago ( when dd was 18 months old!)
It's just so awful, having to try to come to terms with him no longer being here. I keep remembering being with him at Jimmy's, he did so well, I told him the treatment would make him feel crappy but it really didn't.
Just wish I could go back to then and actually realise how serious it all was.
Missing him so much right now, and absolutely dreading Xmas. It's his birthday the week before, and I've to support mum thru this whilst actually wanting to hide under the quilt for a few months!

its my dads op tmrw, same cancer, just been thro the chemo. its a really high stakes cancer.

My dad couldn't have the op, he was too old (80). Maybe I'm angry still but I do feel they wrote him off.
Good luck for your dad san I hope he gets thru it.

It was always uncurable for dad, but they said the treatment would give him 5 years.
Without treatment the dr said 6-12 months and I remember his face falling, he looked scared then. That was 12 months ago, and even with the treatment he ended up only having 8 months.
I miss him, and I miss his influence on my son (12). He adored his grandad.

thanks

i'm so sorry your dad couldnt have the op and it progressed so quickly as well. i am not surprised you still feel angry its all just so unfair

It is very unfair. Like your dad, my dad went through many months of treatment and appointments. He never complained, just got on with what they told him to do. He was in remission for a while but then it came back. He was initially going to have the operation for stomach cancer but then they said no, he had too many other issues, heart, age etc. they said chemo would cause more suffering and it would be best for nature to just take its course. 7 months later he died. It was a horrible 7 months for him and for us to watch it happen. It's a dreadful, awful disease and so unfair to lose someone you love to it. I know the pain you must be feeling. I'm sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss.

My beloved died 2 1/2 years ago from oesophageal bastard cancer. He couldn't have the op as it had already spread to his lymph nodes when he was diagnosed. We were 'fortunate' in that his first round if chemo put him in remission for a few months and enabled to all go on a fabulous family holiday together. The next 9 months consisted of fortnightly chemo and him getting sicker and sicker. When the consultant realised how many cycles dad had had, he was horrified but amazed he'd survived so long!

The thing that still makes me very very angry is that at the time of Dad's death, no one in the UK was doing any research into this type of cancer. I get unjustifiably enraged at all the Cancer Research ads telling me that together we'll cure cancer although hopefully things have changed.

its still the most underfunded cancer, alongside brain tumours (which my brother recovered from) and i know exactly what you mean!

i'm sorry about your dad too BadRoly
(((hugs))) and to all of us on here xx

badroly I too get sooo cross at the cancer research ads. And I'm sure they're trying their best but it's not going to bring back my dad is it?! And I'm sure there are more and more people getting cancer now than ever before, unless there's just more reporting of it.
Every day there's news of someone dying from it, again.
After all these years and all the money poured into research WHY are people still dying from cancer??
Hugs to you, and littlepink, and of course you too san

And anyone else with a loved one suffering from this bastard.