To be sad about my dad?

[iamstegosaurus]

over ten years and still so hard to talk about even with my mum can't explain why but just so sad at the moment ...

It's been thirteen for me but I still have times when it's unbearably sad. (((hugs)))

We must have had brilliant dads! Mine died 1989. You miss them forever.I always feel sad looking at my own kids now, I know he would have loved them so much, and he would have had so much fun with them.

Me too. (13 years.)

I still think about him every day. There have been so many things I wish I could talk about to him, get his opinion on.

And that's okay. It means they meant something and were important to us, and a part of them is still alive in us and our memories. I think if it wasn't sometimes almost overwhelming, it would hurt in a different way, because it would be getting remote. But at least it's not so often these days that I can't hold down a job (which I was struggling with at the time.)

He was your Dad - it's fine to be missing him still, and feel sad, because no one else can ever replace him.

Thank you so much it's so hard but feel like it's been long enough to be over by now to everyone else. sorry just having a really bad night only got my mum and she has more than than enough to deal with xx

to every one else missing someone tonight as well xx

You've got us to talk to. You can pm me anytime. Everyone else does seem to move on but there is no time limit on missing someone. Especially a loved one.
I wish he'd seen my boys, seen me marry, I miss the little nonsense things like him bringing me the first conker he'd find each year (even in my 20's). I had an incredible dad and his death left a big hole that I've learnt to live with but can't fill.

I expect other people think you've moved on, too, because I guess you don't show how you feel to others IRL, and don't talk about it so much. But I think there are loads of us out there, for whom it still hurts and always will - it's just we learn not to talk about it much. That's not the same as being over it. Life will never be the same again.

It's always going to be sad I think.

For me time just brings more things my mums missing out on :(

Go easy on yourself