Don't know what to feel

[Minimammoth]

I have 3 children all grown up now. My youngest two are twins, boy and girl. Or rather man and woman as they are now. My daughter has a little girl and wants another baby. Two weeks ago she had her pregnancy terminated, a little boy with severe heart defect, lived only ten minutes. My son's wife pregnant also, had a baby girl today. I am thrilled for them and can't wait to meet this newborn, but it highlights the loss, so hard and so sad. I don't quite know how to be.

What a time of mixed emotions for you and all your family.
I wish I had some wise words, but can only offer some virtual hand-holding.

Thankyou Katie

So sad. So recent and raw. I do understand. Take time and take heart - such pain does ease, eventually. Even though you never forget, you never stop loving.

Congratulations on the birth of your granddaughter and also, of course, to your DIL and son. Enjoy the new life!

BTW - two of my DCs are early 20s but I find it almost impossible to refer to them as 'men'! Maybe that just a Mum thing!

That must be such a mixture of emotions. I lost my first baby neonatally to a heart defect.

All you can do is be there for your dd and support her how you can. She will feel the loss even more so that there is now a new baby in the family. Please do nor let anyone put pressure on her to see the new baby.

My dsis was pregnant when I lost mine and that was hard. She lives in a different city so did not see the baby until he was 3months. That was hard and I do not think I could have seen him earlier.

SANDS were supportive to me and my dm also contacted them. If might be good to speak to them.

The pain of loosing a baby does get easier but will always be there. I have gone to have a healthy dc but will never forget my first.

Hopefully you will be able to enjoy the new baby while supporting your dd.