Family friend goes into labour and her husband is killed in motorcycle accident

[jampots]

Dh's (birth)mum telephoned this evening to tell us her niece went into labour this morning and her dh was on his way home from work when he was killed in a motorcycle accident in Staffordshire today. Her labour has subsequently stopped. I feel so sad for her and their lovely little daughter at what should be a extremely joyous occasion.

I really dont know what to say in a card - Ive only met them twice but were due to see them in a couple of weeks at BMIL's birthday bash.

[hub2dee]

Blimey, that's about as horrendous as they come, jampots.

[aitch71]

oh jesus, jampots, that is horrific. the poor wee family...

[Thomcat]

Oh dear God, how devestatingly awful

[Gillian76]

[Twohoots]

That's just terrible, really, really awful I'd be stuck for the card too - very hard.

[Spagblog]

Poor girl. What a hard time to cope with it all.

[edam]

That's a tragedy. I'd use the third sentence of your post in the card, tbh. And just say the things you'd say in any message of condolence.

Someone once posted that the things they wanted to hear in condolence cards were memories of the person they'd lost 'do you remember the time...' Maybe something about one of the occasions you met them?

[EmmyLou]

That is so, so sad.

[moondog]

Oh
My
God

[BudaBabe]

God how awful.

[HumphreysCorner]

How terribly tragic

[poppiesinaline]

that is awful. so so sad

[jampots]

She's had her baby now - a little boy born today

So, I have the wording for the sympathy card, how on earth do I word the congratulations card? Do I include her dh's name as it is his baby too, just unfortunate that he's not here to see him or would that just upset further?

[FoghornLeghorn]

My God ! What an awful awful tragedy.
I wouldn't even know where to begin jampots

[RTKangaMummy]

Oh my goodness sad]

I can only say how we felt after DT1 died

we wrote to everyone and said that we still wanted to be congratulated on having twins even though DT1 died

So IMHO I would send it to her mentioning her DH name as like you say the DS is still his son iyswim

I agree with edam suggestion of mentioning a memory in the condolence card

[Piffle]

oh that is such sad sad news

[hulababy]

How awful for the family.