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How am I doing? says Yorkiegirl

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Yorkiegirl · 07/09/2006 06:32

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hulababy · 07/09/2006 08:54

You are doing fantastically well Yorkiegirl.

milward · 07/09/2006 08:57

YG - have to say that your amazing - your girls are fortunate that you are like this xxx

What a strong gesture to donate to the heart foundation.

Thoughts are with you xxx

katzg · 07/09/2006 08:57

when my MIL was widowed she was told to take one day at a time, and thats what she did, some days were good and some bad, but as time went on there were more good than bad.

Thinking of you.

trace2 · 07/09/2006 09:02

yoekiegirl, thinking of you and your dds, xxx

kimi · 07/09/2006 09:29

YG, so glad you posted as i have been wondering how you were doing but felt it would have been rude to ask.

Hope you get appointments soon and some much needed sleep.
You are very brave, and im just so sorry you have had to go through this.
Its wonderful that you feel you can give your DHs clothes to a good cause, you have to be one of the most selfless people i have ever come accross, as you seem to be looking for ways to help others from the darkest time of your life.
Your daughters are very very lucky to have such an outstanding mother to get them through all of this.
Hope your DHs sister is getting the support she need too, however please dont think you have to be all thing to all people, as you need some you time too.
Love and prayers to you all. xx

PeachyClairHasBadHair · 07/09/2006 09:29

SHhhhhh don't mention giften and telented- this is MN, even this thread could kick off .

Really pleased to hear from you sweetheart. The tablets sound like a good idea, if they don't work CAT me and I'll let you kow what does (been through most with Sam).

be kind to yourself, and be aware that with so much going on- I think new school, gromets and illness alone would have most of us ranting!- it might just over whelm you when things quieten down, and you need to take it as it comes.

Love and hugs to you all

X

Flamesparrow · 07/09/2006 09:31

You are sounding so strong. My heart is with you.

Imafairy · 07/09/2006 11:24

YG - thanks for letting us know how you're getting on - you are in the minds and hearts of lots of us.
Hugs from me and my brood.

trinityrhino · 07/09/2006 11:25

Wishing you all the best YG, you really sound like a pillar of strength for your girls
Take care
xxx

Greensleeves · 07/09/2006 11:27

What an amazing, strong, brave woman you are YG. I do hope it helps a bit to know that so many of us are thinking of you and wishing the best for you and your girls. xx

biglips · 07/09/2006 11:27

wow... hadnt that flown by (4 weeks!!).. Good to see that youre keeping your chin up. and that is a lovely thing to do for the British Heart Foundation {{{{hugs}}}} xxxx

geekgrrl · 07/09/2006 11:31

hello yorkie, thank you for updating us. I often wonder how you are getting on.
Will your dd's op be at the LGI? My dd has a fab consultant there, was wondering whether you've got the same (Mr Knight)...

Piffle · 07/09/2006 11:37

YG I'm glad you are able to grieve your own way. People do it differently that's for sure.
I guess as a mum you have to hold it together for your girls, but it sounds like you have done an incredible job in such sad circumstances.
I'm sorry your dd is poorly again, I hope she is improving and her op goes ok, that will lead to hopefully better health for her?
Hope also you're wading through the bureaucracy, it's mind boggling the hoops you have to jump through to sort all this stuff out
I hope it goes smoothly for you
Most of all wishing you love, warmth and a really big hug xxxxxxxxxx

frumpygrumpy · 07/09/2006 11:40

Hi YG. Its not just losing the person thats hard is it? Its all the work that goes along afterward too. My only advice (and feel free to ignore it) is please don't rush to clear anything away that belongs to Nigel. I have witnessed this in our close family and later there were lots of tears and upset once these things had gone and couldn't be brought back (silly items that you think you'll never need or want can suddenly come to matter).

Take plenty of time to continue just as you are and in time, when you are completely sure, you can let them go. It can be a symptom of grief to feel you must make things good and start over again and to feel its part of the moving forward process. There is no hurry. I hope I'm not sounding like a condescending old witch......

Happiness in small packages is where we should all be aiming and its good you recognise it. Love to you and yours.

SoupDragon · 07/09/2006 11:43

Think about you lots.

fennel · 07/09/2006 12:00

glad to hear things are improving a bit yorkiegirl

i was a bit surprised to hear that dd2 had started school!

YeahBut · 07/09/2006 12:05

Good to hear from you. Thinking of you and your dds.

LucyJones · 07/09/2006 12:09

Was wondering how you are getting on and think of you and your dds often. You sound amazing xxx

ssd · 07/09/2006 12:13

thanks for letting us know how you and the girls are.

you sound so strong, i really admire you.

best wishes to you and the dd's.

ssd x x x

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Yorkiegirl · 07/09/2006 16:16

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micra · 07/09/2006 21:22

Ha Ha Remember all this ridiculous crap from when my mum died.

Thinking of you often and I don't even know you. I know you've just GOT to cope and keep going, but you do seem to be succeeding in being very positive and forward looking. Well done you!

Want to say more based on own and friends experiences of deaths of loved ones but it all sounds so patronising when I write it. Just good luck, keep going, and enjoy those small pleasures in life.

Charleesunnysunsun · 07/09/2006 21:26

YG you are amazingly strong your girls are lucky to have you. Keep thinking positivley and know all our thoughts are wit yourself and your family

marthamoo · 07/09/2006 21:27

Started this four times now and deleted it each time - everything I put sounds trite. Thankyou for taking the time to post and let us know you're sort of OK - you sound like you're doing amazingly well to me. Keep doing the small things, and let your friends be there for you.

Posey · 07/09/2006 21:28

Am truely inspired by your strength at what is certainly the hardest of times.
Keep having those little treats, little snatches of happiness to keep you going.
You and your girls are often in my thoughts.

auntymandy · 07/09/2006 21:28

I remember when Dad died mum waanted to cancel car insurance, they said they needed his signature!