Contacting a friend's parents

[Goldmandra]

A childhood friend died suddenly a few weeks ago. We stayed in touch all over the years and would probably have got together at Easter.

I feel like it would be nice to get get in touch with her parents instead, I called them Auntie and Uncle as a child, but I can't work out how to do it. I could just phone and say can we come and see you but it may be a little awkward. I've never invited myself to their house before.

I could just leave it but I know that most people will have paid their respects and moved on by now and I want to let them know that there's still a big hole in our lives and we're thinking of them often.

Please don't leave it-in some ways even more important as time goes on for them to still feel cherished. Phoning is a lovely idea - it will be obvious at once if they want you to come over. I'm sure they will - you will have so many stories of their daughter to share with them. When someone we love so much has died, how comforting it is to know of how much others loved and cared for them. I hope it goes well.

You're right. I won't leave it. I'm just not sure what to say. How are you seems like a stupid question.

Hi there
One of my oldest friends died last year ( she was 43) and I have known her parents since I was little although as we've grown older I've seen them less and less. I sent a card after she died and amongst other things, I also mentioned the things that I remember about her from when I used to visit as a child which her mum later said she'd forgotten about but it was nice to be reminded. I met up with them for lunch about 3-4 months after she died and keep in touch on and off with text/ email and will see them if and when I can. Both parents have said they find it comforting to see old friends and hear from them. Do get in touch whichever way you feel comfortable - we have had tears together but also some lovely chats - they will really appreciate contact, but it's easy to put off ! A letter or card might be nice to start off.....

Honestly, you will know what to say - if only it's that you don't know what to say, that you've been thinking of them....would you rather write first as krafty suggests? As she says, you could put in some memories you have of their daughter and then say you'd love to come and see them send will ring in a day or two

As bourdic says, you will know......jot a few things down first and then maybe come back to it.....

Thank you. I did speak to them when she died and at the funeral and gave them copies of photos we had of her. I just need to get on and phone I think. I know there'll be tears because they're happening as I type. I miss her so much.

I might suggest meeting for lunch.