About to adopt, widowed

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Hoping for some sensible and comforting words. I know I'm lucky in all sorts of ways, I'm just having a moment.

My husband died ten years ago (at 27). Life has gone on, and got better. I have a brilliant family, and lots of support still from his family.

We didn't have children, and so I began proceedings to be approved to adopt on my own. I've been approved, and am now at the start of being matched with a child. It's stressful, but all good news and exciting ... But some evenings, I just really really miss my husband and wish we were doing it together.

Wow. I can't even begin to know how you have coped but you sound amazing. I wish you and your family to be, so much happiness.

You will always miss your husband and it is totally normal to be 'having a moment'.

How lovely you are to be going ahead with the adoption & what a lucky child that will be to have you as her/his Mum.

I hope it all goes as smoothly as it can for you & would love to hear updates.

Thank you both! There's such a pressure to be emotionally unflappable during the approval process that until I read your words, I had sort of forgotten that it's OK to struggle sometimes

I've had a cry and feel much better - time to take a mug of tea and a good book to bed, and see what tomorrow brings. Thanks again for replying - you really helped.

I just wanted to acknowledge your post and feelings. Be free to feel and good luck with the adoption.