Saying something at my Gran's funeral

[pinkbear82]

Was wondering if anyone has any tips? I'm the only grandchild and my Dad has asked if I would like to say something. I would love too, I just don't know where to start. What might sound right to me could be far too personal for others or just be be rambling. She made it to 93 she had good innings!
I just don't know how to start.

Firstly, I am sorry to hear about your Gran, she sounds a very special person.

Could you read a poem or verse which you feel would be personal to you and her?

My DC did this when my DM died. I was so proud of them, there was no way I could have spoken.

Try googling it. It might give you some ideas of what you could say, and you could adapt something that seems relevant to make it more personal.

Thank you, she was indeed a very special person and had seen a lot in her lifetime.

I considered a poem or similar and I don't know if I want it to be more personal, if that makes sense?

I want to be able to say how much she meant to me, and how proud I am she got to meet my dd. But maybe personal is too much.

Good idea bowler. Think I am over thinking things. Doesn't help it doesn't feel real yet.

when my nan died (was suddenly, she was still young) we wanted someone to say something. my cousin, her nephew, volunteered and read the most beautiful poem that he had written a few days after she died. I think a poem would be easier to say. when he had to say something at his stepmother's funeral he couldn't get his words out , he said he wished he'd gone for a poem like before.

thinking of you and sorry for your loss

My DD is only 16 but was going to read this because we found MIL had written it out 3 times. But on the day couldnt do it (she started but couldnt finish because of something that went before her.

I'll pm you my little tribute that I did at my Nan's funeral tonight Pinkbear. It'll give you a gist and I/Nan got a round of applause at the end of it. I don't know how "noraml" that is at a catholic funeral mass, but there you go.

So sorry for your loss OP. Hope you aren't suffering too much. My Gran died around this time last year, so I am thinking about her alot at the moment.

I'd just tell a story of something special you remember from when you were a child.
Real memories beat sentimental poems, every time, unless everyone knows the poem mention something to person who's died.

Thank you all.

Bruffin, that actually has inspired me to perhaps include a few bits about how adaptable she was, as long as the work computer didn't come into things!

Bunty that would be lovely. Thank you. And I hope you have done something to remember your nan by.

When my dad died I wanted to say something at his funeral because I wasn't sure that the vicar would get it quite right. What I did was to write my Dad a letter which detailed some important parts of his life, plus some personal stuff from me, funny stories, sentimental stuff etc. I read it out at the funeral and it went really well. I had a bit of a wobble when I said 'Dear. Dad....', but I pulled myself together and it was fine. Whatever you do it will be hard. I just didn't think that a reading or a poem was quite right gore me.

Good luck xx

for me not gore me!!

I don't know how creative you are, but I wrote a poem that was read at my granddad's funeral. The vicar read it for me, as I knew I'd be in floods of tears so didn't want to risk it being unintelligible.