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My dad told me today he has liver cancer.

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IsThatTrue · 28/12/2013 19:14

There's nothing they can do for him . They're talking months not years. And I don't know what to do.

I want to drink myself stupid but I have 12mo ds2 here.

I want to go and stay with mum and dad but I'll have all 3 kids tomorrow and can't face telling them yet.

I want to go back in time and not have them turn up unexpectedly on my doorstep today.

This isn't fair! He's only 52. This isn't supposed to happen now.

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oldbaghere · 28/12/2013 19:17

Hugs. I'm so sorry.

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IsThatTrue · 28/12/2013 19:20

Thank you for reading my rant. Just had to get it out.

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OhOneOhTwoOhThree · 28/12/2013 19:22

IsThat I am so sorry to hear this news. Hugs from me too.

oldbaghere · 28/12/2013 19:22

Believe me my rant which is now in life limiting illnesses was much worse Grin and a LOT more sweary

TheArticFunky · 28/12/2013 19:23

I'm so sorry to hear that. The same disease took my Dad.

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IsThatTrue · 28/12/2013 19:25

Thanks ohone could you link me to the parkrun thread please I've lost you all. And I'm going to need to run soon.

It's just so unfair. And he's being all practical and I just want it to be some elaborate horrible joke!

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OhOneOhTwoOhThree · 28/12/2013 19:26

We have missed you IsThat. I was just wondering about you the other day.

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IsThatTrue · 28/12/2013 19:27

I'm sorry to hear that arctic from what I gather online he's stage D and treatment will be to keep him comfortable. He had cirrhosis of the liver already and has a massive build up of fluid in his abdomen. But has lost loads of weight everywhere else. He has a CT scan on Monday.

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OhOneOhTwoOhThree · 28/12/2013 19:27

Here

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IsThatTrue · 28/12/2013 19:28

I've been massively busy with Xmas and the new house. That's what I was doing today, stripping bloody wallpaper when they turned up. It's not how today was supposed to go.

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ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 28/12/2013 19:28

Oh fuck - so so so sorry to hear your dreadful news :(

Big hugs, lots of love & strength
xx

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IsThatTrue · 28/12/2013 19:28

Thanks ohone

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OhOneOhTwoOhThree · 28/12/2013 19:33

You poor love.

OhOneOhTwoOhThree · 28/12/2013 19:34

More (((hugs)))

TheArticFunky · 28/12/2013 19:38

That was a very similar situation to my Dad too. He too had cirrohosis diagnosed 13 years before.

He had done everything he could to keep himself healthy but sadly the damage was already done. I never really got to the bottom of why he was never offered a liver transplant.

Take care I hope the next few months are as peaceful as they can be for you and your family.

mrscog · 28/12/2013 19:44

I'm so sorry, this happened to my Uncle (who was the same age) this year. Take care of yourself and accept any support you need.

RandomMess · 28/12/2013 19:45

Just offering hugs x

resipsa · 28/12/2013 19:47

God, I'm sorry. 52 is too young.

Skogkatter · 28/12/2013 20:01

((hugs))

So,sorry. My brother died of liver cancer. It's shit. Sad

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IsThatTrue · 28/12/2013 20:05

Really shit :(

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Blatherskite · 28/12/2013 20:46

Oh IsThat. I have no idea what to say but wanted to offer virtual hugs. Such horrible news Sad

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IsThatTrue · 29/12/2013 06:26

Thanks blathers and everyone else.

I slept ok except didn't hear ds2 wake so must have been blocking some of it out. I'm not sure how to et through today tbh.

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SecretWitch · 29/12/2013 06:37

What terrible news! Your family must be in shock. I will be keeping you in my thoughts. Please post here if/when you need comfort, MNer's will do our best to care and support you..xx

bumbumsmummy · 29/12/2013 11:33

Oh shit holding your hand offering gin and chocolate

Anything we can do

ShrekTheHalls · 29/12/2013 11:41

hugs from me as well. 52 is too young for this rubbish stuff. it doesn't feel real does it Sad Try contacting macmillan (and otherwise keep off google) they are awesome support for the whole family.