can someone help me with what to expect?

[ChiTownLady]

I have just come back from the ER where scans have showed that my 9 week pregnancy has no hearbeat and probably stopped growing at about 7+5.
All a bit shell shocked really. They offered me a D and C which i said yes to as I just want this to be over but as it wasnt emergency there was no one available (I am in the US so normally they can accomodate most requests) so tey ahve sent me home to see how things develop naturally and I will see my ob'gyn on Monday.
Anyway I was being a bit over anxious in going in the first place as i had a weeny bit of spotting so a bit shocked as to outcome..so I dont know what to exoect next.
I am feeling a bit crampy but have not had heavy bleeding or clots - can anyone help me with what to expect.
This sounds really trivial but theres an open air concert that dh and ds and i were going to tonight and i feel like i'd still like to go to take my mind off things but do wonder that it might be a bit foolish if "something" happens...

Sorry really rambling am trying to hold things together but think i am blaming myself for not really wnating the pg initially ( i had a really shit time with ds my first pregnancy), feeling crap and not doing all the 'right' things like prenatal vits and having a glass of wine - stuff i was so vigilant about last time round with ds..

Oh that all sounds terrible CTL. Thank goodness you have loving support at home.
Hope your physical recovery goes well XXX
Many of us here have experienced miscarriage or stillbirth

CTL I'm so sorry. I've just found this.
FWIW IME (4mcs) I think you're over the worst. It's totally sh*t but it can only get better from here. I don't really know what to say, I could have given advice if I had found this at the weekend, but still wnated you to know I'm thinking of you and hoping it gets easier, quickly for you. Lots of love xxx

Thanks have woken up feeling so much better - although feeling achey and tender and a bit fragile...but do have a huge sense of relief that its all over ( particularly the pain!)
Thanks for sharing your experiences with me - it has helped me with knowing what to expect..and sory for everyone elses losses..its hard to really imagine what it must be like until you experience it for yourself..