I shouldn't be so upset about my gran's death at my age...

[YonilyDevotedToYou]

My lovely gran died on Saturday at the age of 92. She was ill in hospital, had stopped eating or drinking and was ready to go. I am 34. All these reasons mean that I shouldn't be upset- I know this logically- but still feel very low whenever I stop doing something or am on my own. Have been crying on and off since Sat. I keep thinking I could have done more for her.

Anyone else feel this way about losing a grandparent in adulthood? Or am I being ridiculous?

My condolences Booboo. I suppose you shouldn't expect to be able to rationalise emotions. Look after yourself today :)

You too Yonily

Why on earth should you not be upset at the death of someone dear to you? You loved her and she's gone- grief is completely normal.

FWIW I'm jolly upset about the death of my 73 yo father earlier this year, even though he wasn't very nice, and I'm 45.

So sorry for everyone's losses

Op, I lost my wonderful gran the day before Christmas Eve last year. I was 33 (now 34) and I still miss her terribly. I found her collapsed at home, had to call an ambulance and my mum. It was awful, really awful. She died 3 days later, just a coue of hours after I left the hospital at anot 5am. I cried for weeks.

It's perfectly normal for you to cry. It's only been a matter of days for you, you're bound to still feel raw. Take each day as it comes and do t try to hold your emotions in - you're only human.

I actually came on to this board to post about my gran, and how Christmas just won't be the same - especially as she was Polish and Christmas Eve was such a special time for her

I'm 38.

My Granny was 95 and died last week really unexpectedly (well, as unexpected as death can be at 95.)

So, I know what you mean about feeling like you shouldn't be upset.

My Granny was old. The last time I saw her she said she wouldn't like to live much longer. She felt she had lived her life and she was the "last one standing" out of the people she knew of her own age.

But still I'm sad because I loved her (still so weird talking about her in the past tense :( ) and the world is a sadder place for me without her in it.

Obviously, in the grand scheme of things, a very old lady dying quickly and without much pain is not a terribly tragedy.

But to the people who loved her it is a very sad time and that's OK.

My condolences to you and your family.

We were very lucky to have grannies into our 30s :)

Of course you can still feel upset.

I've lost all my grandparents now, I still shed a tear for them every now and again.