fuming - need advice - almost in tears.....

[KateRaeganandMichael]

OK (this might not make a bunch of sense)

so today I have found out that the girlfriend of my dh's best friend has decided to write a book About (with a view to publishing and profiting from) my angel twins who were born sleeping after battling ttts.........without even asking us our opinion....

I am obviously not happy (I'm shaking writing this) and I don't want this to go ahead. I don't know what to do.

[AngelsLieToKeepControl]

I found this you might have a legal right to stop her by the look of it (I am absolutely not an expert but it looks like there could be something if you go along the invasion of your privacy route).

[WeAreSeven]

Oh, Kate! ( It's chip, by the way, have namechanged) I cannot believe anyone could in any way think this is OK! I am so upset for you!

Is is supposed to be a fictional account? I am raging on your behalf!

[SisterMonicaJoan]

I am so angry to read that this "woman" wants to do. Has she no decency or compassion. To try and profit from your loss is utterly descipable. Heartless bitch.

Just wish there was something we could all do.

[MrsKwazii]

Bloody hell Kate. I have no advice to give but am so sorry that you and your DH are being put through this. I sincerely hope that this woman can be brought to her senses. What's she's planning to do is just cruel

[SaintVera]

Appalling! I am so sorry this heartless woman is putting you through this

[giraffescantdanceallnight]

bloody hell!

[AuntyPippaAndUncleHarry]

AngelsLie link you posted is an American site. Comments I have made all relate to the law in England/Wales. OP where are you based? Obviously the law is totally different in USA to England and Wales.

[ModeratelyObvious]

So sorry, OP.

It may be worth writing to her to say that you will seek to inform any potential publisher of your objections to this book and your intention to seek legal action if possible. There's a handbook of literary agents, I believe - a standard letter to all of them would not cost too much in postage etc.

This may be enough to deter her or make her change the story somewhat, if she thinks potential agents will be put off by the letter.

What does your DH's friend say?

[LilyTheSavage]

I am so sorry for your loss, and even more sorry that somebody you know feels it appropriate to write about it without even discussing it with you. It is mind blowing and just rubs salt in your wound. I lost my 21 year old son three and a half months ago and if anybody did what she is proposing to do I would -not be responsible for my actions - be very unhappy. It's a good idea to talk to CAB. Good luck. I hope she is put firmly back into her box.
Sending you hugs (and some tears on your behalf as well).
XXX

[Juneywoony]

Oh OP how truly awful, I'm shocked that somebody would actually do this!!

I'm angry on your behalf, it is not this woman's story to tell!!

As everyone else has said how truly insensitive and cruel of her, how bloody dare she!

I really hope you can stop her legally. xxxx

[Pawprint]

That is absolutely disgusting.

I had a slightly similar experience some years back.

I am a published writer myself and agreed to contribute to an acquaintance's book. She had lost a baby due to premature birth and I had experienced miscarriage.

After the book was published (she published it herself as an e book) I looked at a copy and she had passed off almost all of my writing as her own work - that is, she stole what I wrote about my babies as though it was she who had lost them. Weird.

Anyway, the book bombed and I think that was the end of her writing 'career'.

I think your partner needs to speak to his friend ASAP and insist that this tasteless and inappropriate project is stopped.