Thoughts on words to wrte in card for my friend who lost her dad

[Thomcat]

The funeral was yesterday. Had card a while but not sure what to say.
He was diagnosed with cancer 6 weks ago. She is a quite a spiritual person.

Any ideas what to write in the card?
Any verses or wonderful quotes or anything?

thanks ff, you make me coz you are ...so unconventional

jan - he was ill for a long timeso it was expected

sorry for typing have only one hand as bf

kristina, even when a child is seriously ill it still must be so tough to say goodbye and let go.

Hope the anniversary of James's death isn't too hard for you to get through. Thinking of you here too.

thank you

Kristina, when i was younger, well 16....... i had a best boy mate he was called Mark.

We were meeting up to go swimming and i was stood up by him, i rang him to bollock him and he had died that night.

It was due to be my birthday and he had told me he had brought me a John Barnes figure for my birthday before.

At his wake it was given to someone else, harrumphhh.

Anyway, i posting all this bollocks because i bet your son had effect on women like me and he will never be forgotten. Mark still lives in my soul.

I'm not sure if thats any comfort.

yes is is. so many people came to say goodbye to him. we were touched by how much he was loved.

i'm sorry about your friend mark. its lovely that you still remember him now

but what is a john barnes figure??

Kristina
Hadn't read your post when I commented. So so sorry about your son. Wish there was an emoticon that meant sending lots and lots of kind thoughts, cous I;d use it now.

thanks axolotl. Sorry about your mum - I bet you still miss her lots

Thanks you, kristina. I do, but it was a long time ago now and that old cliche about time healing is sort of annoying, but true. The feelings never go away, but the gaps between experiencing them get much bigger. x

thanks you???!!!

I def agree about personnal messages or stories. MY Dad died 4 years ago - and my mum died in December, (both early 70's which I feel is too early)..

I enjoy reading the cards from their friends telling me things about them that I did't know - or even did know but like the fact that they knew it too...

I say enjoy, I cry a lot when ready them, but somehow feel closer to them when I read the cards etc.

The poems are also nice, but if you did know her dad then mention something if you can.

My friend wrote about how she remembered my dad taking us to hockey matches when were we 16 and always telling the same jokes.. made me happy that she remembered... somehow keeps his spirit alive more when other people think of him or remember things he did/said.

Anyway - I am sure your friend will appreciate anything from you to show you are thinking or her at this sad time.