was it or wasn't it, now I need to know, can any1 help?

[mummybex]

hi,
This is the first time I've posted here. I'm really hoping someone will know the answer to this...

last month my AF was a week late and when it did arrive it consisted of 3 days of very heavy bleeding, 2 day very bad pain, including 6 hours pretty severe pain - it reminded me of my contractions giving birth to my eldest daughter (Inever have any period pain). I had been feeling like I might have been pregnant, but as we hadn't been trying I was putting it to the back of my mind.

once the pain had become bearable (about 2 days) I went and bought a pregnancy test which was negative, so I told myself it probably wasn't a miscarraige. Now a friend has revealed that she is pregnant - beginning the same month - and I know I'm not going to be able to get this out of my mind as I watch her pregnancy develop unless I know for certain that it wasn't a miscarriage (I hope).

Does anybody know if the negative test definately means I wasn't pregnant to begin with? or otherwise.

hope someone can help, please,

becky

As far as I know, pregnancy hormones can take up to two months to disappear after a miscarriage, so if you were far enough gone to have had a positive test you would still have tested positive after a miscarriage.

It would be a real shame to let worrying about this eat you up.

I remember reading that although the hormone doubles every 48 hours when you are pregnant, it decreases at a slower rate. I know it took me a hell of a long time to get a negative test after my m/c.

Sorry to hear what you have been through.

Don't know if this will help or not,

In the past I had a faint positive pg test the day af was due, then two days later I started to bleed and a pg test that day was negative, I then had a heavy bleed for 9 days, (my usual cycle is light and 4 days). No pain, but with such an early mc may I may not have known it was a mc appart from the +ve pg test.

I hope you can manage to get the answers you need.

hey hunny

sorry your going through this ((((hugs))))

It could have poss been a chemical pregnancy, were egg fertilizes but does not implant, i dont think the hormones levels go very high, but if a lady tests early enough it will come up, to go on and have a heavier than normal period a few days later. Its happened to my friend alot, shes just gone through it again this week.

sending you huge hugs x x

My friend had a bfp on day 27 of her cycle, a few days later she bled heavily and was in a lot of pain. The doctors wouldn't refer her to the epu as it was so early but told her to do another test a couple of days later. I think it was about day 34 of her cycle and the test was negative. I think it might depend how early in the cycle it is as to how long the hormones take to disappear.

hi :)

I had a similar experience in January apart from the fact that we were actually ttc and so i had definitely convinced myself that I was pg even though the tests were negative. When I started to bleed on day 32 of my cycle, it was different to any period I had ever had, and there were clots etc. For a while I did wonder whether I had actually been pg and had had a miscarriage, but tbh, as the tests were negative, there is no real way of knowing. Imo the best thing to do is to put it down to having had a strange cycle rather than a miscarriage. If your period is late, then heavy bleeding is not uncommon, but as there is no way of knowing whether you were pg or not, you could potentially be grieving for a baby that never even existed, and that could eat you up inside when that might be totally unnecessary.

hi, thanks everyone for taking the time to reply. I'm sorry I didn't post back earlier, chaos, children, hubby and holidays seemed to do there utmost to interrupt my every attempt!

I feel a lot better about not knowing now, and just leaving it in fates/Gods hands. your replies really helped, especially by helping me clear my head!

thanks, becky x