The mum of one of dd's school friends has died...

[Earlybird]

I'm in complete shock. I've just had a call from dd's class rep to say that the mum of one of dd's classmates died yesterday. There is no word yet on whether or not it was caused by illness or an accident.

I was just with this woman on Friday, We walked together to the coffee morning, and she was trying to convince me to come to her place in the country on Sunday (yesterday) to meet a man she thought I might like.

We sat at coffee morning on Friday with 5 or 6 other mums planning costumes for the school play. I am stunned. I don't know what to say to dd, and my heart goes out to this woman's dear little girl.

Feeling very emotional reading all this, and wonder how that poor child must be feeling just now. Does she have any brothers or sisters?
When I was young, I only ever knew of one untimely death (the dad of a boy in my class, about 7 at the time) but as an adult and parent I seem to hear of it so much more.
Keep those communication channels open, both your daughter's and your own (we're always here for you).
You sound to be dealing with your feelings well and being a fab and thoughtful mum.

This thread is so sad, Eb - heartbreaking to think of that "dear little girl" breaking down when her mum wasn't there at hometime.

Your DD's comment "poor X, her mummy is lovely" is one to go in the memory book.

Your DD is very lucky in her mummy too - you are being very brave and doing a fine job of coping with this for her.

My friend's mum died in a car crash when we were 10 and it was awful. But in those days it was quite hushe dup, nothing mentioned really.

A mum at M and T group dieD last year, very sudden, they never found out why. It was truly horrid, we were all struck by the unfairness of it, she had 3 children, the youngest was born just afetr DD2, and was barely 6 months old. The eldset not even at school. It shook everyone up. We had a creche so that mothers could attend the funeral, and the kids always sing Twinkle Twinkle in memory of her. They made paper flowers for her children, for them to keep, with messages from the mums on the back.

A year later, we still talk about her quite a lot. and it did change the way that many of us rhought about hings with our kids.

Earlybird- how old is your dd?

Sorry i wasnt shocked by your message but i DO understand.

The same thing has happened here-girlfriend of mine died in July,her dd and mine are in the same class.

Life sucks,all the cool chicks die young.
Do you know the father at all?

I am so sad to read this earlybird - thinking of you and your family as well as the poor family who have lost their mum. God bless X

I'm so sorry to hear this EB, it makes me really sad.

At DD's school, 3 children lost their mum due to an illness last year. The school hadn't even been aware she was ill until we got the call to say she had passed away. She left behind a 3, 7 and 9 year old.

Oh, Earlybird, yes, do do the memory book for her. What a lovely idea!

Poor little girl at hometime - it's just so sad

so very sorry to hear this -awful for all.

gosh, I didn't think something that was so unconnected to me could upset me so much...

EB, you are doing a great job with your dd and I am amazed at how strong you are.

My dd is napping, I have just sat with her for a few minutes telling her I love her, makes you realise how precious life is.... xx

Love to that wee soul. So so sad. The memory book idea is lovely. Something her DD can look at when she's grown and know her mum meant something to lots of people.

OMG I'm crying at the very thought

how incredibly sad .. poor wee thing .. poor everyone

memory book is a great idea