Does the pain ever go away from an M/c?

[sharklet]

I'm sat here in tears and it completely stupid. I had an M/c back in feb, very early on only 7 weeks. We're trying for no. 2 and every month its just the saem feeeling as when I had the m/c over and over again. Will this ever go away?

I'm sat here crying becasue I can't find my persona monitor manual so I can try using that to coniee with, becasue my periods just come and becasue my two best freinds are about to pop and I know its going to hurt so much to see thier babies once they come along. Its the hormones making me be all slef indulgent. I don't expect anyone to reply. I just needed to pur this out somewhere as its driving me mad. I just feel like I'm reliving that moment I knew that I was miscarrying over and over again.

Sharklet, it's still very early days for you.

I had a miscarriage at about 7 weeks nearly 3 years ago. The worst thing for me is that the EDD was dd's actual birthday so I do get a bit wobbly around that time to put it mildly. It also started on holiday abroad. Everyone else except me seems to have forgotten.

Thinking of you.

ps some fab posts on here - but can I say I wish my mother and dh had shown half the compassion that Spidermama's MIL has.

panicpants it was put down to pcos and teh imapct that had on my body.As other peopel have said the children I have now may not have been if I had n't gone through my experiences so there is a silver lining

Sharklet i had a missed miscarriage back in feb, and i feel just like you. Some days i am fine and the world is great, other days i spiral into this world of self pity and loneliness. It must get easier and better, but i do think ttc isn't helping. We are just waiting to see if it happens, but i am so aware of when my period should be due and istart dreaming that if i was pregnant we could do this and that.
Reading all these posts helps me to realise i am not alone, but i do worry that friends have had enough of me going over it now, and feel that i should be over it.
Did you guess that this is a down day for me?!

I had a miscarriage last year, in April (I was 12 weeks). A friend of mine was about 4 weeks ahead of me and I worried that I would find it very difficult when she had her baby but I comforted myself with the thought that at least I would be pregnant again by then. I wasn't (still not )I went straight round with a present and it was OK. It really wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I suppose it was because it was her baby and I didn't want her baby.
I still find it diffcult when my period comes (like today ) as I do feel like it's all happening again but it is not so bad as it was at first.

Agree with bobbynog - it's nice to know that other people know how I'm feeling and they're thinking about me too.

Your right it is good to know that I'm not the only one feelignthis way. I am feeling much more positive today. LAst week it was the first day of my period so dissapointement and hormones were running riot.

We're not TTC per se. We're not not trying if that makes sense. Actually form a logistical point of view we shouldn't start trying until mid July. Becasue we want to go to the USA for Christmas to visit the family and we couldn't if I was in the final trimester. I've got the persona working now so by the time July comes hopefully it will be wokring properly and we can start TTC in earnest. I'll have to stop allowing myself to ponder what could be every month as it just makes me feel so much worse.

Hi Sharklet.

Your OP made me cry.

I've been meaning to add a post to this thread for a little while but didn't know if I would be of any use really

I've just had a m/c in April, I had an absolutely dreadful April actaully and it seemed to end it so awfully. It's still early days but have to say I found found the last couple of days really tough.
The night I had my m/c was the same night another Mnetter had her baby and in a very odd kind of way I found the thought of this a real comfort and it made me hopeful for my future.
It seems there has been a population explosive around me. Two close friends called me to tell me they were expected both two days away from what would of been my due date. I m thrilled for them but envious in equal measure and feel terrible guilt because of it.

I can't help feeling that I have been cheated out of having a baby. At the back of my mind though is always hope. A hope for sunnier days and a big swollen baby. Today I'm having quite a good day actually.

I'm going to do something really stupid and reckless like buy a rusty old convertible two seater sports car in an effort to temp fate I think. On a better note I plan to buy an acre of rainforest to honour the baby I lost. I like the idea of something else living on in his memory.

Sharklet I was wondering about you last week on how you was. I met you on the oct thread. I too ended with mc at the end of feb and its still raw with people around me having babies or getting pg. I have had 2 now and no longer in a position to try again, well not for a while at least (which hurts me so much). I can only guess that it does ease in time. I find that certain circumstances trigger upsets and emotions. Maybe you are not quite ready yet for ttc or maybe its the need (which I totally understand) for a child and we want it now and when that doesn't happened we put pressure on ourselves.

I hope your pain and upset begins to ease soon.

Take Care x

hI SHARKLET,
sorry your feeling so down, i know what your gonig through, i had a missed miscarriage in october i was 13 weeks and the baby died at 9 i ended up having an erpc which i was reluctent to have but did and we have been trying for a baby since and every month when my period comes it brings out all the grief i feel and every month is the same waiting to ovulate then waiting to see if its going to be good news only to be shattered when its not, i know how your feeling and i do hope it starts getting easier for your soon. x

I've just had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks (baby probably died around 6 or 7, they said). I'd been bleeding a little since Saturday, and by Tuesday I was sure things must be wrong - but you still hope... And it is awful to think that for nearly a month I was thinking things were OK when they weren't. And planning, and hoping.

What makes it worse is that it's actually my second miscarriage. I didn't take the first one seriously - unimaginable now - because I was so distressed at being pregnant at all, and because it happened so so early. Then I was still a student, no job, and the father was a new boyfriend. Ten years on, the boyfriend is now my husband, and I am so scared that this will just happen again, and again... We don't have any children...

My grandmother lost her first baby in the 1930s, as a late stillbirth (I think she had pre-eclampsia). I have known about this all my life, and she continues, at 97, to talk about it. I don't think these things ever really leave you.

hi just had a missed miscarriage yesterday at 12 weeks, only measuring 8 weeks on scan, took a whole year to get pregnant, you just feel so low and sad. this was my 2nd miscarriage, starting to wonder if ill ever have a baby! x