Waiting to m/c

[Angsthase]

Just feel crap. Had a scan last week which showed the baby had no heartbeat and was only the size of 6weeks. It should have been min 8 weeks. Went to EPU because symptoms were fading. My dates can't be wrong as my dh was not around for the 2 weeks after I conceived and I did a pg test before he got home which was +.
I have another scan tomorrow but know what it will tell me. I think I will ask them to do a D&C or whatever it is they do, as I've been waiting a week for it to happen naturally and I don't know if I can wait any longer.
Very down and dh keeps trying to be positive and telling me to look on the bright side - at least I can get pg. Can't see a bright side at the moment.
Don't want to wallow, but feeling quite sorry for myself today.

My first post on this thread, though posted regarding same topic on others and saw some familiar names, Oinker and Angsthase, so so sorry....I didn't say it properly on the other threads. And to all others out here recent and past, who have lost an Angel... Has the bleeding stopped Angsthase? How are you doing Oinker, you've been through so much -words fail me. It's only been 5 days for me ,and once more I am wishing my life away to speed up the healing process to try again asap. Sending healing wishes to you all xx

Thanks K1K2. Bleeding stopped on Wed, so looking forward to a relaxing w/e away and as it's going to rain all w/e I think we'll spend most of it in Bed! Well, we'll see how it goes.

I know what you mean about wishing your life away, I'm doing exactly the same. It's really hard not to obsess isn't it - especially when it feels like everywhere you look there are pregnant women.

Oinker - good luck for your appointment on the 6th. It's my birthday on that day so I'm sending you all my good birthday vibes for a + result

Hi Angsthase, that's good about the bleeding, you must be relieved. I have a follow up scan on Monday, and my bleeding, in just less than a week has almost seized up. I'll be b**d if I can wait for 2 periods before trying again, life's too short and I've used up half of it already... I just wish I had done this baby thing earlier. I see a group of women regularly from my DS postnatal group, nearly all of them have had a second child , the last is due in just a week.. I told them about mc today, obviously they were supportive. Anyway, why should I rattle on about second children , people on these threads who have mc'd and not had firsts, it's all relative.. When you confide in your mc there will be someone else that has a more difficult time than you, not that it is about comparisons, but I am humbled by some experiences others have had ,here on MN and elsewhere. One colleague I confided in this week who had 3 mc's ( 1 before her 1st and 2 before her second) said her DH was adopted because his Mum had 10 mc's. After several mc's , he was adopted but then MIL then went on to have 2 siblings naturally after numerous more mc's. The natural born siblings came about because the drs identified the reason for her mc's ,a chemical that was missing that aborted each child. They administered the missing chemical, and hey presto the naturally born sibs came ( but only tenously, because they were able to administer this drug in time, the other mc's came because the drug was not administered in time ), that's what nature does sometimes... incredible..Sending heapfuls of healing wishes to all..Have a good w/end xx

K1K2 - Hope you're feeling a bit better today.

Nature can be wonderful and then be so crap can't it? Feeling your body get back to normal helps the healing process, but I think our emotions take alot longer.

I know for sure I'm not going to wait to ttc. It's really only so they can date the pg anyway and scans can do that. My clock is ticking way too fast for me to waste any time waiting. I've waited too long already to start a family.

Fingers crossed for us both to get good news soon xx