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Mother-in-law lost her battle :(

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GenT · 17/01/2004 10:13

The phone rang shortly after 8:30 last night. Didn't get home until after 4 this morning.

She was a stubborn woman in her days and she was stubborn to the end. We kept saying she will hang in until 2 am and then say good-bye. Her baby daughter left at that hour and number 3 child departed at that very hour as well. The ironic thing is, she never left at 2 but instead at 3, technically with it being British summer Time for the children, it would be the same if she left then, but our clocks are an hour ahead. She gave her final breath but seemed to resist at the end. That was her awkward way and to be different.

She has had a long 7 1/2 months battling renal failure and previous strokes. It all went for the worst on Wednesday and it was the waiting game. But the suffering has ended and she is on the other side. She lead a full life.

Sometimes when we think there is a floodlight at the end of the tunnel, there is only a flicker of a candle.

Our dd who was born just 2 weeks prior to all this, slept through most of it. They seemed to be competing for who could snore the loudest. We wonder what dd thinks as she would automatically smile at her nana when she saw her, but instead curiously looked on trying not to miss a thing. Maybe that is why she doesn't act like a 7 1/2 month old. She has been through a lot in her short life time. I wonder if she will remember any of this.

But we continue knowing, life should only get better. It is tests like these that make one stronger and helps in preparing for tougher challenges in the future. Let's hope it is not really soon.

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pie · 17/01/2004 10:19

I'm so sorry to hear your news, how is you husband holding up?

wilbur · 17/01/2004 10:26

GenT - I'm so sorry for your loss, what an extraordinary story about the time your MIL decided to go. I think that is often the case, people do choose their moment. It's a very hard time, but I am sure you will all cope wonderfully, especially with your dd to keep things going. Think of you.

wilbur · 17/01/2004 10:27

Sorry, that should have been "thinking of you."

emmatmg · 17/01/2004 10:50

Thinking of you genT and of course all your family.

motherinferior · 17/01/2004 11:12

Take care

WSM · 17/01/2004 11:26

Wishing you and yours strength and best wishes for the coming weeks.

WSM
xxx

mears · 17/01/2004 12:01

Sympathies to you and your family GenT.

SecondhandRose · 17/01/2004 12:08

No more pain for her, my very best wishes to you and your family.

Bron · 17/01/2004 13:10

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Lisa78 · 17/01/2004 13:13

So sorry for your loss

GenT · 20/01/2004 23:11

I am just venting. In my experience of other families I think the arguments begin when the deceased belongings are distributed but in ours it starts with lack of respect for each other wishes. People failing to contact another for the simplest of decisions, not that any decision is simple. Times are stressful as it is and everyone is touchy, so I think consideration is the key in a time when you should stick together. Fighting just makes the healing process longer IMO.

At the moment due to lack of consideration for the youngest sibling, we won't be going to the funeral. Seems we shall say goodbye earlier than the others. Which is probably better than going to the service and acting like all is well and good, no problems anywhere. I don't know but I am happy that nana isn't around for all the bickering and disrespect.

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GenT · 25/01/2004 00:16

This is GenT's DH.... Just a message to all to say thanks to all responses and it has truly been helpful at this time.

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