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Poor handling by teacher

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mummynumnum · 07/02/2013 21:14

My dd lost nanny (my mil) 8 weeks ago. All v close and looked after my dc for a number of yrs while I worked and lived with us for last few mths of her life. Daughter has been doing ok and we encourage her to talk as and when she wants to about it. She came home tonight and said she was upset about nanny today and friend got her teacher (yr2) and her teacher said or goodness sake. It had obviously played on her mind. I know my dd can use nanny to get her out of trouble/get bit of attention, but my dh and I think this was handled badly. My dh wants to go in and see head teacher. Are we in our grief over reacting or are we justified?

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girliefriend · 07/02/2013 21:16

Yes I would speak to the head teacher, not overreacting Sad

Really insensitive of the teacher.

Am sorry for your loss.

lisad123everybodydancenow · 07/02/2013 21:17

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GinandJag · 07/02/2013 21:18

What do you want to happen?

You can't turn the clock back?

Do you really want the teacher to be punished? Will it ease your grief?

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mummynumnum · 07/02/2013 21:26

It's not about punishment. I am a teacher myself and try and avoid being a difficult and unnecessary parent but as a teacher I would not say this to a child talking about the loss of a loved one. I know I don't know the whole story but it i find it quite unprofessional.

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girliefriend · 07/02/2013 21:36

Maybe speak to the teacher first to get her take on it but agree its not about punishment Confused rather that dismissing a childs grief is not on.

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mummynumnum · 07/02/2013 21:37

The teacher is actually an ex pupil of mine so am actually v protective of her but she is v young and lacking a bit in real life experience

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chipmonkey · 11/02/2013 15:34

Who talked about punishment? But she shouldn't have said "oh for goodness sake to a grieving child" and it needs saying.

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mummynumnum · 14/02/2013 20:12

Stopped my dh marching in and sent an email in. Said that dd had been upset by her words and came home saying she did not want to mention nanny at school anymore. Said that I understood there may be a wider context but would like to know what that was and that I felt as teacher she needed to reassure dd about being free to
Discuss her nanny etc etc nice email back, with wider context and dd got a nice 1-1 chat as wellSmile

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whiteandyelloworchid · 15/02/2013 00:58

Well done for sticking up for your dd, good result

OrangeLily · 15/02/2013 01:19

Depends how it was said.... Could possibly been in a 'for goodness sake, what a state you've got yourself in to. Why didn't you come and get me?' .. Type way?

Ask the teacher first.

fuckwittery · 23/02/2013 23:59

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