My friend just killed herself

[BoffinMum]

I just found out this evening. Not sure what happened. She was lovely, I had no idea.

Shit, Boff, just seen this.
Call me if you need, number still the same.
Huge, un-MN hugs from me to you.

I'm so very sorry for your loss

Her son has been in touch with me. He seemed to appreciate my email.
Trying to make it to after-funeral event.
Had a coffee and a go with the wet wipe, refreshed make up and actually managed to speak coherently in a meeting. It's amazing what a bit of support can do! Thanks MN people x

Managed to buy the wetwipes with Advantage card points therefore haven't even wrecked my no spend day for the other thread, and someone had even left 10p change in the self-scan machine

Wondering - what things to read/think about in relation to loss of friends rather than family (feels like different type of grief).

Hang on to any small positives you can boffin. I'm really sad to hear about your friend. Your concern for her son is probably very needed, I'm glad he replied. Hope the rest of your day goes ok.

I have found out a bit of background. She had a bad reaction to some medicine for heartburn, this stopped her sleeping for months, and then she just couldn't bear it any more.

Bloody hell.

Fecking hell, it's even worse to find out it was because of heartburn medication. What a senseless waste.

One of my friends committed suicide a long time ago. It is a strange way to be bereaaved.

As a recently bereaved adult child my siblings and I have really appreciated the people who have taken the time to get in touch and tell us stories about their relationship with my Mother. Someone even sent some fabulous photos of me as a 4 year old playing with their kids.

It certainly livened up an evening as my siblings committed fashion assasination at my brown cord jacket orange cord jeans outfit.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I hope her son can take the small comfort she can finally rest now.

Very harsh Clare people react to grief in all kinds of funny ways. I focus on small things when in shock, like wipes, and when you're grieving you do think about yourself. Wy shouldn't you? Not a supportive comment at all..

ClareMarriott - that's harsh and uncalled for. She's asking for support not criticism. I've reported your post.

Reported

Grief is personal, isn't it? It's about how we respond to something shocking and sad. You can only describe grief in terms of how you feel. That doesn't make you selfish at all. And that's why people come here: to express how they feel so that they don't 'burden' people in real life.

So sorry, Boff. Can any of us help to enable you to attend the funeral? I'm in the South West and could help with childcare most days.

OP, I'm so sorry for your loss. Grief is personal because ultimately the person who has died feels no more mental or physical pain but those who remain must suffer.

That was aimed at Clare, btw.

An ex-patient of mine committed suicide a while ago, and I'll never forget the grief and suffering on the families faces. Boffin- please don't feel sad about feeling sad. She was your wonderful friend.

Jesus Claire, talk about hitting below the belt.

so sorry to hear about your friend Boffin

BoffinMum ignore the shit.

We had a shocking bereavement last year, I know how shocked you must feel today. You ought to be so proud of the fact you made your meeting and kept it together.

Please be kind to yourself and take care.

ClareMarriott - why you felt the need to write such negative, unmitigated shite I will never know. You need to have a long, hard think about the kid of person you are if you felt that was in any way an appropriate comment.

OP, I am so sorry for your loss. I have (fortunately) only had to deal with a suicide attempt (my brother's) but it was just awful. Go easy on yourself.

So sorry to hear about your friend, look after yourself.

Ignore the nasty bile up there.