10th anniversary of brothers death

[tjacksonpfc]

hi all im hoping someone can help me it was my dps 50th bday yesterday which passed ok the problem is it is the anniversary of his brothers death on the 31st of this month his brother was 42 when he died suddenly of a heart attack my dp and his brtother were really close as there was only 2 years between them well from now untill the 31st he gradually gets more depressed he withdraws into himself and drinks more than normally and generally ignores everyone and everything anyone got any ideas on the best way to handle this. thanks

have you tried a way of helping him celebrate his life, mabybe from now until 31st plan with dp a day his brother would like to be remembered. a favourite place, meal or somewhere he wanted to go or something he lliked to do or wanted to try? or just try and get him out of the house - a boat trip, picnic in the woods or the beach. just something gentle but life affirming.
i know how hard this is for you, my best friend died 8 years ago aged 25 and i still miss her very much. i have recently got back in contact with her family and it was so lovely to talk about her again and catch up with them. it took a long time to do this but it felt like the right time.
xx

the trouble is dp is a postman so he is up at 4am and doesnt get home till about 2 so by the time he has had a coffe and we have fed and bathed ds and dd then the night is over nad he is off to bed as he has to be up early so its a bit of a problem